Making yourself a promise to shed some pounds, get in shape, and/or change an unhealthy diet are some of the most common New Year’s resolutions, and it’s easy to understand why – not only are we a nation obsessed with junk food and body image, but it’s also a pretty natural backlash from the indulgence of the holiday season.

Now, for some people, making the choice to get in shape or eat healthier is approached with seriousness. They change their routines, their habits, and commit themselves 100% to their new goals – and generally succeed. Unfortunately, most of us don’t have that kind of drive behind our resolutions, and are more of the “dieting because I overindulged over the holidays” type of crowd. What this means, in short, is that we fall right off the wagon about this time of year.

Small goals are the key to keeping to your New Year's resolutions.

Small goals are the key to keeping to your New Year's resolutions.

If this sounds familiar, don’t get discouraged! First off, you’re not alone (nearly half of New Year’s resolutions are all but forgotten by the end of January), and more importantly, there’s nothing in the rules that says you can’t keep trying!

Part of the problem is the way so many people approach the goal of a healthier lifestyle, a healthier body, and a healthier diet. When such major changes are part of a New Year’s resolution, you’re setting the expectation that a “new you” will be magically reborn come the first of the year, that you’ll wake up that morning, toss out all the sweets, head straight to the gym, and be well on the way to the new you.

We know reality doesn’t quite work like that, though. Making changes takes time. You have to develop to new eating habits, work your way up to an exercise routine, etc. So many of us fail to achieve our resolution for weight loss because we set our sites too high, and instead of making small changes along the way, we expect to shift course entirely and become someone else overnight!

Maybe a better approach is one of gradual and intentional progress – just like achieving other goals, the process is a journey, not a moment of instant gratification. If you set your sites on weight loss or a healthier lifestyle for 2014, but feel like you’re already falling behind or off the wagon, try breaking your goals into smaller, more manageable steps.

Try starting with one good exercise session per week, or fitting 10 or 15 minutes of exercise in each day. Alternatively, get rid of the tempting junk foods in your house, and make an agreement with yourself not to buy more. When you’ve accomplished that first step, start working on the next one.

By segmenting your goals into more specific and methodical pieces, you’ll not only be able to stick them easier, you’ll also feel a sense of accomplishment and positive reinforcement when you’ve mastered one piece and can move on to the next.

Resolutions don’t do any good if they are too broad, and we certainly won’t stick to them if the only goal seems impossibly far away. Instead of thinking about what year it is, or what the final result is, get excited about the principle behind your resolutions.

When you get focused on the steps instead of the destination, making a little progress each day seems so much easier – and if you stick with it, the results will show up on their own.

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What Every Wife Needs To Do This New Year

On January 13, 2014, in Marriage Counseling, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

We recently made a post highlighting several ways men could step it up to be ideal husbands in the coming year. This time it’s the ladies’ turn.

Just like last time, these are all tips that will help you get closer to the “ideal” woman for your husband, and while everyone has their own preferences, these tips are pretty universal for most men. Try them out and see for yourself!

Every wife can benefit from these tips.

Every wife can benefit from these tips.

1. Initiate Sex

This is a big one. According to a Men’s Health survey, 66% of responding men said they wanted their partners to initiate sex more often. While you might be rolling your eyes a little, this goes hand in hand with two very important truths about how the male brain works: first, having sex makes him feel connected to you, and when you initiate, he (perhaps subconsciously) will read this as your desire to build that connection.

Additionally, when you initiate sex, or even anything in the wide range of sexual experiences, it makes him feel desirable, masculine, and important. Just like women want to feel wanted, so do men! This gives him a big ego boost, and lets him know that you are attracted to him (and not just having sex because he wants to).

2. Show Your Admiration

This goes right along with number 1! Similar to men’s desire to be wanted physically, they also take a good deal of pride in their own ability to solve problems and be providers. Of course everyone likes to be appreciated and admired, but it holds special importance to the psychology of men.

Making sure that your husband knows that his efforts are appreciated, and telling him specifically what he’s doing right, what you find attractive, and what you depend on him for will help him feel empowered – and most men love to feel powerful!

3. Have Fun!

Think about how your husband bonds with his friends. It may have very little to do with time spent talking to each other, and everything to do with shared activities – from poker night to team sports, working on a project together to simply taking in a movie or show they both enjoy. Men can spend hours with one another barely saying a word, and still walk away with a strong sense of connection to the people they care about.

With this in mind, try having some fun with your husband! Tackle some physical work around the house together, play a sport or active game, or simply find a project that engages you both! The experience of a shared activity will bring you closer together, and your husband will appreciate the time spent together on his terms.

4. Allow For Downtime

Men have a habit of retreating sometimes, but it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care or that he doesn’t adore you and the kids. All it means is that he needs a little downtime, and that’s just fine! Sometimes women can misinterpret this, and instead of giving their husband time to collect his thoughts or get some rest, they add more stress by prying about “what’s wrong.”

While it isn’t true for all men, many aren’t the greatest at explaining their intentions – so he may not come out and say that he needs a little peace and quiet, but if his actions indicate just that, he probably does. He’ll truly appreciate having it, too.

5. Try Something New

Similar to engaging in shared activities, go on an adventure with your husband! Lots of men have a streak of “adrenaline junky” in them, and what better way to show him how much you love his adventurous spirit than to try something exciting with him!

Depending on your experience, and the level of adventure you’re willing to get into, this could mean a whole range of different things – but the first step is to talk about it! Tell him you want to do something exciting, and then figure out what fits into your budget (and your fear tolerance). Don’t be afraid to take a little risk from time to time. Getting through some adventurous activities will draw you closer as a couple, and show your husband your brave side!

Again, every man is different. Not all husbands are dying to go on adventures, and plenty of them may get all the downtime they need, but simply putting these tips in the forefront of your mind, and doing your best to act on them, will show your husband just how important he is to you.

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As a society, we spend more time online today than we ever have in the past. With more and more Wifi connections, smartphones, the commonplace practice of having internet service in our homes, connected TVs and Blu-ray players, tablets, home computers and work computers – at any given moment, any one of us is only a split second away from being online.

On one hand, this is a good thing. GPS helps us to make it to our destinations with ease, we can look up valuable information on the go, absorb art and music from people all over the world, learn new skills, stay in touch with family and friends, and enjoy all of the other benefits of worldwide connectivity.

However, there is a much darker side to such constant internet access, and that’s internet addiction.

Addiction may be a strong word to describe some of the problematic behavior, and no conclusive studies have been done about the actual addictive properties of computer/internet use (and whether or not it’s a symptom of other addictive behavior). Even if we classify it as “overuse,” though, the problem remains a very real part of our society.

Internet addiction can be detrimental to a marriage.

Internet addiction can be detrimental to a marriage.

In varying degrees, internet addiction can be described as online activity that interferes with other portions of your life. Now, online life and “real” life are not necessarily mutually exclusive – plenty of us use the internet to run businesses, as a method of everyday communication, etc. It’s when online “leisure” activities like gaming, shopping, watching various videos, and general web surfing become a priority over other “real life” activities that internet use becomes a problem.

For many, the vast world of the internet can become an easy escape from responsibility or, as is the case for other potentially addictive behaviors, simply too alluring to resist.

When there are people to communicate with, awards to achieve (as in video games), an endless supply of photos and videos, every product you could ever want, and countless pages of reading material, it’s easy to see how some people could become more attached to what’s going on the screen than what’s going on around them.

This habit, though, can happen at the expense of our in-person relationships, our health, and our interest in things outside of this digital sphere. Becoming so invested in an online pastime can chip away at the amount of effort we put into all other areas of life – in turn damaging marriage, negatively affecting work performance, and creating a general amount of procrastination when it comes to breaking away from the digital device to interact with the real world.

There is no single defining behavior for these problems, and the can develop gradually. If you’re more concerned with checking your email than talking with your spouse, though, or too busy playing Angry Birds to notice how late you’re staying up, you may be giving your online activities too much priority.

Now, it’s worth noting that portions of other addictive behaviors can manifest themselves in online activity, and serious issues like gambling addiction, pornography addiction, and shopping addiction can all be enabled by internet use. Outside of these extremes, though, general “overuse” of internet connectivity is still a common problem.

So how do we fight against it? The temptation is huge! There are computers all over the place, and most of us have a smartphone in our pocket or purse. How can we break the habit of staring at the screen?

The very first step is a shift in priority. The email can wait. The game is just for fun, and is not a necessity. In our digitized, over-stimulated lives, we need to remember how important it is to step away from the screen, to talk with people in person, to have physical contact with the world.

And when it comes to actual addiction, help is available. If you think your spouse or someone you know might have a problem with internet addiction, here are a few places to start:

We have to be careful about forming habits around these relatively new technologies. There is nothing wrong with spending time online, but we can’t let it replace the other important things in our lives.

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Every year, people of all walks of life look to the beginning of the New Year as a fresh start, a chance to set goals for self improvement over the 12 months to come. The unfortunate reality, however, is that while plenty of people make New Year’s resolutions, very few are ever accomplished.

Research from the University of Scranton shows that only 8% of Americans actually succeed with their resolutions, despite roughly 45% of Americans making them nearly every year.

New Years is a great time to take a fresh look at your marriage.

New Years is a great time to take a fresh look at your marriage.

Most of these resolutions have to do with making healthy changes (like losing weight or quitting smoking), improving finances, or taking steps to a happier life (like pursuing hobbies, removing stress, laughing more, etc.).

Oddly enough, resolutions to improve relationships rarely show up in surveys – but the resolution-makers are missing something very, very important: resolving to improve your marriage (and sticking to it) can actually help you improve ALL of the areas those common resolutions focus on.

Think about it – if you decide to make your family and home life more supportive, happier, and healthier, you are also creating a supportive environment for other positive changes you want to make. Things like a healthier lifestyle, getting exercise, thinking positively, watching your spending, and all the rest are all made easier when you have a support system – namely your spouse.

If the two of you can work together to make your connection as strong as it can possibly be, then the two of you have the tools you need to push each other (and hold each other accountable) to achieve goals throughout the year.

One of the most important components of achieving your New Year’s goals is specificity. Instead of just a general “I want to improve my marriage this year,” set specific goals that you can measure and track. If you want to spend more time together, plan to have a date night once a week, and keep track of whether or not you do it!

If you want to improve communication, lay out exactly how you plan on achieving this – write it down! Maybe it’s a reminder to yourself to keep your temper in check, or to be a better listener, or to be more expressive with your opinions. Whatever area you want to improve, make a detailed plan. The more detailed your plan (and the steps within in), the more likely you will be to stay on track.

This New Year, look to spend more time with your spouse, improve your communication, work together on a budget, and take steps to improve your sex life. Improving these aspects of your life together will help you build the strength and confidence to achieve your other goals, and pursuing them will become a team effort for both of you!

Having a strong marriage, where both of you can act as a support system for each other, will boost your confidence and overall happiness, and with this improved attitude, make all of your other goals that much more attainable.

Happy New Year!


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Marriage Help: Finding Middle Ground

On December 18, 2013, in Resolving Conflict, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

Building a romantic relationship almost always begins with having something in common, whether it’s taste in music, a favorite restaurant, a movie you both recently saw – there’s got to be something to spark a conversation.

As you grow closer, you likely find more and more opinions you share, things you enjoy doing together, places you both like to visit, and more ways to develop a connection to one another. After all, the relationship wouldn’t grow to the point of marriage unless there was something keeping you connected.

Now, having things in common is great, but what about the things you don’t see eye to eye on?

Finding a middle ground to talk about issues can help save your marriage!

Finding a middle ground to talk about issues can help save your marriage!

Before we even get into compromise, having differences of opinion is a good thing. If you both thought the same way about everything, how would you compliment each other’s personalities? How could you use your experiences to help one another through difficulties or encourage each other to try something new? Differences can be strengths, and understanding this fact makes it much easier to contend with opinions that don’t align with your own.

Beyond the large differences in personality and opinion that help make couples dynamic, there will certainly be disagreements in day-to-day life. When this happens, the best thing to do is work together to find a middle ground that satisfies both of your needs.

We aren’t always going to want the same thing as our spouse, but when it comes to something relatively harmless like what to have for dinner or what color to paint the living room, finding some common ground is much, much better than digging in your heels and causing an argument.

Finding the middle ground could mean talking about your differing opinions (in a calm, constructive way, of course), and deciding together that one choice or the other is the best option, based on the persuasive points of one of you. It could mean creating a third option that meets both of your requirements, and every once in a while, it can mean settling on half and half!

One couple recently featured on the Huffington Post did just that with their wedding cake – half traditional, half Batman. This is a great example of finding the middle ground that, at first thought, seems like it would never work – but when put into action, the end result is something unique, fun, and representative of both people in the marriage.

Shouldn’t your marriage reflect both of your personalities?

In times of conflict, when you can’t seem to come to a mutual decision, stop yourself for a moment. Take a good look at what you’re both trying to accomplish, and instead of fighting for your position, put your heads together to find a common solution you can both be satisfied with.

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Random Acts of Kindness Make You And Others Happier

On December 11, 2013, in Marriage Advice, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

In our last Monthly Membership Call, titled "Random Acts of Kindness," we encountered a pretty tough question – and when that happens, we feel it’s important to pull that information together and present it here. After all, if the question seems tough to us, we can only assume that it’s a problem other people might be struggling with – and we want to help!

Kindness manifests itself in many ways, and a lack of kindness can be displayed through short tempers, disdain, and talking down to others. One of the most common "kindness-shortage" behaviors, however, is selfishness.

Our caller said:

“I’m frustrated and tired because it feels like my marriage is all about my husband. We always have to do what he wants to do and talk about what he wants to talk about, and I almost feel invisible. What can I do to get what I want instead of always feeling like I have to please him?”

Random acts of kindness make everyone happier.

Random acts of kindness make everyone happier.

This is certainly a touchy subject because there can be a LOT of factors at work in a situation like this. This dynamic in a relationship certainly isn’t the healthiest it could be, and it can be rooted in the personalities of both people. Perhaps one person is overbearing, narcissistic, or simply has to be the center of attention, and the other is timid, denies his or her own needs, or is easily pushed around.

While both of these personality extremes could stand to learn a few things, all too often, it’s the less aggressive (or sometimes left confident) individual that winds up the victim of a situation like the one described in today’s question. With that in mind, the advice for solving the problem is more directed toward the person in that role.

So here it is: if you feel like the marriage is stacked toward the interests of your spouse and your needs go largely ignored, try changing the dynamic by “talking in the middle.”

This means finding the middle ground between the two obvious extremes. On one hand, you could just stay quiet and take it, letting your spouse dictate the conversation, the activities you do, and even the focus of much of the marriage. On the other, you could get angry and demand that things change in your favor.

Finding the middle ground means making your concerns known without attacking your spouse – after all, they might know how their actions are affecting you. It will take confidence to interject, to let your spouse know that you’re feeling ignored, or that your needs and concerns simply don’t seem like a priority in the marriage, but you can bring up this topic in a tactful way.

Talking in the middle means not getting angry and taking it out on your spouse, but it also means not just taking it because you don’t want to cause conflict.

It won’t necessarily be easy, but if things are going to change, you have to speak up for yourself.


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3 Ways to Fix Your Marriage

On November 11, 2013, in Keeping The Love Alive, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

While every relationship is different, some problems that occur in marriages are quite common – they are simply the realities of spending a lot of close time with someone, and with a few tools at our disposal, we can help overcome the common problems and keep our marriages happy and healthy (or get back to this type of marriage if things have begun to go sour).

Here are three fairly straightforward tips for keeping your marriage the best it can be, and to help steer you back onto the right path if you’ve gone astray:

1. Listen and Understand

We can’t say it enough: healthy communication is key to any relationship, romantic or otherwise. For you and your spouse to really connect, you have to know where each other are coming from. That means not only listening to what they have to say, but also internalizing and understanding their unique point of view.

Whether it’s in an argument or a casual conversation, making a point to truly absorb what your spouse is saying makes all the difference in understanding their opinions, their fears, or even how they react to certain situations. Listening and understanding are how you get to know a person deeply, and maintain that connection over time.

Helping your spouse is just one way to improve your marriage.

Helping your spouse is just one way to improve your marriage.

You’d expect the same courtesy from them, right?

2. Meet Your Spouse’s Needs (That They Tell You)

You can’t be expected to be a mind reader, so you may not always be able to meet every one of your spouse’s needs. However, when your husband or wife is able to directly explain what they need in your relationship, you should do your best to meet those needs at every opportunity (and they should do the same for you).

“Needs” is a broad term, and could mean anything from time together to routines around the house, from medical or dietary concerns to something specific in the bedroom – marital needs are determined on an individual basis.

Regardless of what the needs may be, though, as a loving spouse, you should be doing your best to actively meet those needs. When both members of a relationship are pursuing this goal, it creates and atmosphere or support, care, and most importantly, a close knowledge of the other person.


When you strive to meet your partner’s needs, you are striving to make them happy.


3. Understand That Relationship Ebb and Flow

This might be one of the hardest concepts for people to accept, but anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows it well. The dynamic (and even the closeness) of a marriage can ebb and flow over time, meaning that sometimes your attraction and love for each other will be intense, other times less so. This means you have to recognize that a lull does not mean the end of a marriage – instead, it might be a sign to work together to get that spark back!

This wax and wane of romantic relationships is completely common, and can happen for a wide variety of reasons (or even no reason at all). The importance of recognizing this lies in being able to press forward to keep the relationship alive!

Instead of feeling lost or upset when the passion of your marriage seems to have dropped off, recognize that it’s both a natural part of long term relationships, and that it’s up to the two of you to keep your connection alive through communication, spending quality time together, and growing together as a couple.


Keeping these three tips in mind will help you navigate troubles as they arise in your marriage, as well as help you prevent those troubles from happening in the first place.

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Marriage Numbers Are Down, But Why?

On October 2, 2013, in Marriage Advice, Save Your Marriage, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

A new marriage study published by Pew Research Center shows that marriage rates are down across the country, from the number of Americans currently married, the percentage of people in this country that have ever been married. The statistics are very telling of trends in our culture, but why are the trends changing?

Among the most easily explained is the increase in average age of first marriage. With more and people young people going to college, it only makes sense that marriage age would increase by a few years. Today’s young people aren’t getting married right out of high school, as they were years ago. A education and career oriented culture has them waiting until they reach cultural adulthood – after college.

Don't become part of the statistics! Your marriage can be saved.

Don't become part of the statistics! You're marriage can be saved.

The other statistics, though, fewer married couples nationwide, declining numbers of newlyweds each year, and changing views on the institution of marriage, shed light on some cultural changes that are happening around us.

Perhaps people have lost sight of the benefits of marriage, or they were never educated about the joy it can bring to their lives. Fortunately, the study reports that 61% of “never married” people are still interested in getting married someday.

What do these statistics mean? Is marriage in trouble? Is yours?

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Why Pornography Can Be Harmful To Marriages

On September 30, 2013, in Porn & Internet Addiction, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

Only recently have psychologists and marriage experts begun digging into the negative effects that pornography use can have on marriages, and relationships in general. The results of these studies are grim, to say the least.

In our modern, technology saturated culture, porn is more readily available than ever before, and that is an extremely important factor to consider. The introduction of online pornography into the equation complicates the issue even further.

Before we get into how consumption of pornographic material actually harms marital strength, let’s address why online porn is such a significant part of the problem.

Watching porn can take a toll on any marriage.

Watching porn can take a toll on any marriage.

The online variety of sexually explicit material is it’s own special breed because of the three As: Availability, Affordability, and Anonymity.

Because it can be seen on a smartphone, a laptop, a home or office, computer, etc., the potential for secretive use, abuse, and addiction is drastically increased.

Now, how does porn actually hurt marriages?

There are plenty of theories out there viewing porn with varying degrees of severity, and each makes claims as to the damaging nature it can have on relationships. Pulling from these sources, we can at least get a picture of some of the potential harm involved:

1. Objectification

When sexual stimulation is just a simple mouse click away, this can lead to a mental separation between a sexual partner and the real, complex human being they actually are.

This, in turn, begins to minimize the understanding a porn user may have for the unique needs and desires (sexual or not) that their partner possesses, and leads them to think of their partner as an object to fulfill their sexual desires (as the people in pornographic material are readily available, at the push of a button, for sexual gratification without any need for reciprocity).

2. Unrealistic Body Image

The typical porn stars is, as would be expected, an absolutely exaggerated and glorified version of the average person. From basic body type to often exaggerated endowments, the individuals featured in pornographic videos and photographs are not an accurate reflection of society as we know it. However, when these individuals are consistently seen as the paradigm for sexual pleasure, people begin to set their expectations to match what they see on the screen.

This can lead down a dark road of unrealistic expectations about both the looks and the actions of a sexual partner. “Normal” people don’t look like porn stars, and they shouldn’t be expected to, but our psychology has a way of making associations and developing tolerances, and if sexual satisfaction is always associated with an unrealistic depiction of people, what does that do to the way a porn user views their spouse?

3. Misplaced Sexual Energy

This is the big one. Even if a porn user shows no signs of addiction or misuse, if they do not objectify their spouses or hold them to an unrealistic standard, this problem still has a major impact on a marriage.

If one member of a couple is using pornography as a sexual outlet, it means that they are not focusing this intimate energy on their partner. This can create an imbalance in the relationship, where one person’s needs are left unfulfilled or ignored, or, if nothing else, a lack of sexual intimacy becomes the norm.

When this happens, couples begin to lose the physical connection that helps keep their bond strong. As this connection begins to wither, the cycle is perpetuated, and an individual may continue to turn to pornography to meet their individual sexual needs.

These are just the problems that exist at the surface of pornography’s use within the context of a marriage. The long-term consequences of frequent use may have more devastating effects.

The bottom line is that porn can be a wedge that separates spouses and skews the way they see their own sex lives. Talk to your partner about porn. Make sure you are on the same page, and above all, focus your sexual energies on your spouse first and foremost – it is an essential component of the connection you share.

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Prosper Where You’re Planted

On September 25, 2013, in Keeping The Love Alive, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

Everyone wants solutions to their problems – improved happiness, stronger relationships, a better community, a better job – and yet, when it comes to taking the steps to achieve these realities, many people have a hard time taking action, or even knowing where to start.

Because it can be so tough to get started on your toughest goals, we wanted to present you with this simple philosophy:

“Prosper Where You’re Planted”

A relationship is like a garden. It takes effort.

A relationship is like a garden. It takes effort.

In a nutshell, this means taking the time to improve the elements of your own life right where you are.

You’re planted in your own life – where you live, where you work, how you spend your free time – and that’s where you have to start if you want to make changes.

Prosper Where You’re Planted is all about embracing the power you have over your own life, “watering your own garden,” so to speak.

This means recognizing that it’s up to you to plant the seeds of your goals, but what’s more, you have to tend to them, water them, and wait for them to grow before you can harvest. Just like growing a real garden, you won’t accomplish your goals overnight – it takes time and patience.

This metaphor goes deeper. If you plant your garden, but then let it fall into neglect, the weeds take over, your plants don’t’ get enough water and start to wither. And similarly, your “goal garden” requires regular attention – you can’t just plant a seed and walk away. Distractions take over. The things you’ve accomplished start to wither unless you take the time for necessary upkeep.

So with this in mind, we urge you to take a look at the ground right below your feet, and ask yourself, “How can I cultivate this?”

If you have a goal, whether it’s to lose some weight, get involved in your community, learn an instrument, repaint the house, buy a boat, anything you want to accomplish, then you’ve planted the seed – but it’s up to you to water it, to keep that mental garden weeded and fertilized.

Make it a part of your daily routine to Prosper Where You’re Planted – it’s the only way to truly tackle your goals head on. Going somewhere new, getting some product, or hiring experts isn’t going to help unless you are putting forth the effort to cultivate your own success. This goes for anything and everything you could ever want to achieve.

It’s up to you to decide how much effort you want to put into it. Just remember that the success you harvest from your “garden” is directly related to the attention you give while it’s growing.

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