Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have one of the highest profile marriages in Hollywood. Will has been a mega-star for nearly three decades, conquering music, television, film, and presumably, anything he puts his mind to. In 2007, Newsweek called Smith “the most powerful actor in Hollywood,” and it’s easy to understand why.
Jada is also a massive presence in the entertainment world, with TV and film roles, a music production company, a heavy metal band, and a book authorship on her lengthy resume.
The two were married in 1997, and as you might expect, have had to deal with plenty of scrutiny from the media over the course of their nearly 20 year union.
There have been some scandals over the years, usually little more than rumors and tabloid exaggeration, but in a recent interview, Will shared something that he and Jada have come to embrace – something that all couples can consider when struggling through conflict.
When talking about working through problems and facing things when they’re at their worst, Will told Sun newspaper, “Whatever you have is gonna die and you are gonna have to birth something new.”
This can be a tough realization for most couples, but it’s one of the most powerful ways to move forward even when things have been terrible. It’s ok to admit that you aren’t happy, that the marriage isn’t where you want it to be, that the current relationship is NOT good… And it’s ok to call that version of your marriage dead and gone – as long as your new marriage is born right then too.
You can agree with your spouse that your existing marriage isn’t working for either of you, and start fresh – a brand new relationship with the person you’re already married to!
This means putting past troubles behind you, offering forgiveness, and agreeing on some new behaviors that will make THIS marriage different from the one you’ve decided to let die.
Will and Jada have been through a lot, with busy schedules, ambitious careers, raising kids, and the media microscope watching the whole thing… But they’ve learned over the years to roll with the punches, to deal with the problems as they arise, and to be willing to let one version of their marriage “die” so another, better, stronger version can be born.
For more advice on how to strengthen your marriage, check out the StrongMarriageNow System today!
Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
I'm currently in a marriage that has become unbearable. He's controlling to the point where I'm not able to work, I'm not able to possess any money save for $5-10. He seriously does not allow me to leave the room, and is refusing to buy furniture for any other room in our home. Every word from his mouth is an insult or screaming and it gets physical. I'm 5'0 and he's 6'6 so it should be understandable that I am afraid of him.
As tough as it may be you need to get some outside help. If you fear for your life contact the authorities and issue a PFA from him. Also, purchasing a concealed weapon for yourself wouldn't be a bad idea so long as you take the time to learn how to safely operate, maintain and store it away. No one is this world is entirely defenseless. Gather a small army of close friends and family as well to be with you when you leave him. If he attacks you, fear for your life, because he sounds very unstable and I doubt he'll stop at a smack or two. I just hope if and when he attacks you have people there to drop him... Yes take that as you want. Just remember, you do matter, you always have a say and you're stronger than anyone can ever know so just go out now and show the world you got this.
You need to get out of that marriage! When abuse whether it's physical or emotional abuse is taking place, you need to get out! Nobody deserves to be mistreated in such a way!
Hi Orange - While we are pro-marriage, we are pro-happy marriage. If you ever feel you are being abused, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, then we support you trying to get help and get out of the relationship.