Worried that your spouse is spending too much time in inappropriate friendship?
Your wife is really close to the neighbor guy but says they’re ‘just friends’
Your husband is really close to a co-worker, but he’s says there’s ‘nothing going on’?
If a spouse is getting closer and closer to a friend and drifting farther and farther away emotionally, you’d be right to be worried.
What starts as a friendship can easily morph into an “emotional affair”.
The missing spouse will get more and more invested and involved in the outside relationship even without physical intimacy.
Emotional needs not being met is the cause for 95% of affairs.
(even for men!)
When a spouse gets a significant portion of their emotional needs outside of the relationship, it can put the marriage in extreme jeopardy.
A married person should not be close friends with someone of the opposite sex if that person is not equally as close a friend to their spouse
If you find you’re in this situation, and you’re not comfortable talking about the issue directly, here’s another approach that can help.
To the best of your ability, involve yourself in as many portions of your spouse’s life as you can and really get to know your spouse’s friends.
- Have a barbeque for their co-workers and get to know them.
- Prioritize your work schedule so that you can attend functions at your kid’s school and meet your spouse’s friends.
- Even if you have no interest in joining their activities, become involved by cheering them on.
- And last but not least, simply talk to each other. “How was your day?” “How’s that project going at work?” “Who won the soccer game?”
As a spouse, you should be involved in the major parts of your partner’s life. It will improve your relationship and decrease the chances of someone else winning their attention.
Spouses Should Be Involved In Each Other’s Lives, That Is How You Stay Connected
That doe not mean constantly hovering over one another. It simply meana for the two of you to happily become involved in each other’s’ lives.
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To make sure you’re meeting each other’s needs and protecting your marriage from inappropriate friendships, invest in your marriage and learn the skills Dr. Dana teaches in the StrongMarriageNow System.