In our last post, we dug into three things couples fight about that can highlight much deeper problems in your marriage. These argument topics should serve as warning signs that larger issues are at play – and that your relationship could be in serious trouble if you don’t do something about it.

Today, we’ll cover three more.

Remember that as long as you and your spouse are willing to rebuild, to face your issues head on, and be honest about how you each might be hurting the marriage, it isn’t too late the save the relationship and create a happy, healthy marriage!

Be on the lookout for these kinds of fights.

Watch out for these marriage ending fights.

Watch out for these marriage ending fights.

1. The Division of Labor Fight

While this one is relatively common, it still illustrates some deeper issues. If you find yourselves arguing because one person feels like they do all the chores, it could be an indication that you don’t have the most egalitarian relationship.

In fact, disagreements about household responsibilities can be a sign that there’s a “power imbalance” in the marriage – that one person is overlooking (or misunderstanding) how their partner feels. Generally speaking, we all want to feel respected and appreciated, and a “fair division of labor” shows that you notice how much work your spouse is doing, and put forth the effort take some of the burden on yourself.

The argument is less about “who does what” and more about NOT trying to help, or not seeing it as a problem. First, make sure you’re both doing your fair share around the house – but more importantly, pay attention to your spouse, and if they are struggling, help them!

2. Regretting Getting Together

In the midst of a big argument, if one of you makes a comment about wishing you never got together in the first place… This spells impending disaster. Even if it’s in the heat of the moment, this is still a dangerous idea to express.

If you’re suddenly doubting the whole marriage – not just its current state, but the whole history – you’re denying that there have been good times, that you are (or were) in love, that there’s anything worth fighting for. You’re also, in effect, rewriting history, and convincing yourself that those good times never even existed. If you do this enough, you’ll succeed (consciously or not) in painting an entirely negative picture of your relationship.

Fight back with optimism. When you feel like you’re at your wit’s end, think about happy memories, and remind yourself that there are positive qualities about the marriage, that the relationship is worth saving, and that with the right changes, you can get back to that place of happiness and love.

3. The Stonewall Maneuver

If one of you just walks away from fights, leaves the house, or simply refuses to participate when things get heated, this is a major red flag. Shutting down doesn’t do anything to solve the problem, and in fact, usually makes the argument worse because it shows your spouse that you don’t care what they have to say.

Now, if you have to pause to calm down or ask your spouse to stop shouting at you, that’s one thing – it’s another thing entirely to just give up and walk away without reason or explanation. If this is happening frequently, it shows that one of you is likely already checked out, and might not be willing to resolve the issues that caused the argument in the first place.

In short, you have to talk about your problems, no matter how tough it might be. If you don’t, your marriage is destined for failure.

Hopefully you can use these warning signs to address the deeper issues in your marriage. It can be a tough road, but once you identify the problems and commit to working on them, you can create a marriage better than it has ever been.

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,

Pretty much all couples fight from time to time. Having disagreements or arguments doesn’t mean the relationship is falling apart or that you aren’t a good couple… But not all “fights” are created equal. Some arguments can indicate much larger, much deeper problems that need to be addressed if your marriage is going to survive.

In these two-part series, we’re looking at six fights couples get into when the relationship is truly on the ropes. Hopefully, you can recognize these topics as warning signs. If you’re having similar arguments with your spouse, you could be nearing the brink of disaster – and now’s the time to do something about it!

Be on the lookout for these marriage ending fights in your relationship.

Be on the lookout for these marriage ending fights in your relationship.

1. Hyperbolic Accusations

If your fights are descending into accusations of “you always do X” or “you never do Y,” it’s warning sign that you have some seriously unresolved issues. These kinds of blanket statements don’t get at the root of the issue, and mean that you’ve been building up frustration for some time.

If you find yourself doing this, stop! Slow down and focus on what’s bothering you in that moment. If the problem is ongoing, you can treat is such, but be mindful to avoid the “always” and “never” statements. Such accusations don’t allow for discussion or resolution, because you’ve already made up your mind that it’s an unchangeable behavior.

2. Fighting About Not Fighting

If you’re having a conflict, and one of you throws up your arms in despair with statement like, “I don’t want to fight about this anymore,” it’s a big problem. By shutting down, you’re refusing to address the issue and stopping any forward progress.

It’s ok to walk away to calm down for a moment, but if you just give up, the problem will never be solved! It’s important to be respectful and calm, and you can certainly ask your spouse to try to control their temper (as long as you do too), but don’t just stop an argument short because you’re tired of talking about it.

3. “I Feel Like We’re Roommates”

When sex and intimacy fall by the wayside, couples can begin to feel like little more than roommates – and that spells big trouble for the future of the marriage. Fortunately, getting the spark back is something that can be done with time and effort… But if it’s gotten to this point, you and your spouse need to sit down and evaluate the behaviors (and other factors) that are getting in the way of intimacy.

Be honest with one another and deal with one issue at a time. Make a point to remain open to new things, try to be flirtatious and engage in physical touch (even just a hug goodbye in the morning), and be patient.

If either of you brings up the “roommates” problem, it’s time to take action right away.

Next time, we’ll cover three more “fight topics” that indicate dire circumstances in your marriage. Be on the lookout for these warnings, and don’t shy away from solving the problems.

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As fall approaches, you have a whole new set of opportunities for season-specific dates with your spouse! It’s essential to spend quality time connecting as husband and wife, and carving out time for dates can help keep your marriage strong!

Over this month, try out some of these date ideas perfect for September:

1. Horseback Riding

A great way to enjoy the slightly cooler weather, riding horses together is a little bit adventurous, a lot of fun, and gets you outside enjoying nature together. If you can, find a place that offers horseback riding in an area you’ve never really explored. You can soak up the sites, learn a new skill, and get some fresh air together.

There are a bunch of great date ideas for the month of September.

There are a bunch of great date ideas for the month of September.

2. Go Camping

Even if it’s just for a night or two, early fall is one of the best times of year for a camping trip. You can bundle up in sleeping bags, cook over an open fire, gaze at the stars… And enjoy the peace and quiet of being away from the bustle of daily life. If it’s just the two of you, you’ll have plenty of time to talk, to sip some wine, and to romp around in the tent - with no one around to interrupt!

3. Shoot Pool

Head to your local bowling alley or pool hall for an evening of billiards. You can play 8-ball, 9-ball, any of a host of other popular games, or if you’re feeling creative, make up your own rules. You can even make little wagers with each other to spice things up. It doesn’t matter if neither of you are any good – just make sure you have fun!

4. Themed Movie Marathon

If the weather has you stuck indoors, have a theme-specific movie marathon! It could be action movies, classics, musicals… whatever you choose! It might require a trip to the local rental place, or, if you’ve got Netflix or something similar, the categories are practically set up for you! Snuggle up on the couch and take in some quality cinema with your spouse.

5. Enjoy the Harvest

The last days of summer also mark harvest season for many, many crops. Depending on your area, this might be a perfect opportunity to eat some fresh picked apples, enjoy a wine tasting that coincides with the grape harvest, or get your hands on some squash right from the ground! Many towns have festivals and community celebrations in conjunction with the harvest season, so make the most of it!

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Labor Day is coming soon, a holiday dedicated to the hard work done day after day, celebrated by taking the day off!

And while it’s a chance to take a much-needed break from your actual day job, it’s also a perfect opportunity to reevaluate how the division of labor works in your marriage. Is the workload shared evenly between the two of you? Is one person feeling unduly overburdened? If you don’t talk about it, you might not know where your spouse stands (or have a chance to tell them how you feel about the household responsibilities you share).

Determining how to adequately divide labor is going to be a little different for every couple. There are some tasks that one of you may just hate, but the other doesn’t mind so much. There may be other tasks that one of you is particularly skillful at, while the other has no experience or ability. These are the easy things to divide, but what about everything else?

Is there a fair division of labor in your marriage?

Is there a fair division of labor in your marriage?

Well, you can always divvy things up right down the middle, where you each take responsibility for every instance of a chore – i.e. one of you mows the lawn, the other does the laundry; one of you cooks, the other does the dishes; one of you gets the kids to school, the other gets them to after school activities, and so on…

This approach, however, isn’t very realistic. It might work for a while, but eventually, something will come up that throws a wrench into the system. Someone will have to work late, schedules will change, and those responsibilities you’ve carefully divided will still have to be taken care of, even if the “designated person” is unavailable.

With that in mind, you can still divide things up, but a healthy approach involves seeing your marriage as a team – where you’re both willing to take care of household odds and ends whenever you have the chance, whether or not it’s your “turn” or your “responsibility.” Instead of seeing something that needs to be taken care of, but leaving it alone because it isn’t your “job,” take care of it so your spouse doesn’t have to!

If you’re both making a point to do this, it will feel much more like a combined effort instead of a division of labor.

This Labor Day, seize the chance to sit down with your spouse and talk this stuff over. The daily grind of keeping up with chores is something that annoys most people – it’s stuff that no one really likes to do – but when you’re both willing to take things on of your own volition (and without complaint), it ultimately makes things easier for everyone.

The real goal should be balance, where neither of you feels like you’re taking on an unfair share. To achieve such a balance, you have to talk about expectations and make sure you contribute to the cause!

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,

Infidelity does serious harm to a marriage – that’s something we can all agree on. Feelings of betrayal, guilt, anger, and a sense of total disruption are to be expected, but even when everything feels like it has fallen apart – you CAN rebuild trust, overcome the hurt, and get your marriage back on track.

Where can you possibly begin though?

First, it’s important to understand that rebuilding trust in a marriage takes time. The person who cheated has a long road ahead of them, showing their partner that they understand the damage they’ve caused, proving that they can be trusted, and showing their partner that they are willing to accept responsibility for their actions.

This won’t happen over night, of course, and the wronged member of the relationship must navigate many difficult emotions and decisions in the aftermath of an affair, particularly the decision to forgive their partner and begin working toward the future.

Rebuilding trust after an affair can be difficult.

Rebuilding trust after an affair can be difficult.

Now, this process of forgiveness and rebuilding trust will be a little different for every couple, but there are a few important components that are necessary to move beyond the pain and get your marriage back on track.

First: honesty. The hurt person needs to be able to talk openly about their feelings without the other party becoming defensive. This isn’t a blaming session, or a chance to use the offending partner as a verbal punching bag, though. Instead, this raw and painful conversation is important to make sure the person who had the affair truly realizes the impact of their actions.

It is essential to share this pain together, to face the reality of the affair head on. Otherwise, you won’t be able to get to a place of rebuilding. The barriers of unspoken pain will not go away until a couple can talk about them openly.

After an honest, heartfelt apology and an open discussion about the pain that has been caused, the next part is one of the most difficult for people who have been cheated on: admitting a certain amount of mutual responsibility.

When affairs happen, it’s usually because of the climate of the relationship. While the person who committed the adultery certainly made a damaging choice, it’s important for both members of the marriage to look realistically at the state of their relationship before the affair, and assess what they were both doing to create the situations that led to infidelity.

Most often, infidelity occurs because the emotional and physical needs of one party are not being met. While the “blame” can still lie on the person who committed the adultery, it’s unrealistic (and unhealthy) to think the situation is entirely one-sided. Evaluate the way you were communicating, the amount of time you were spending together, and the attentiveness to each other’s emotional and physical needs.

By examining the issues in the relationship that lead one person to cheat, couples can see things they need to improve as they move forward, both to rebuild the marriage stronger than it was before, and to avoid the issues that could lead to another affair in the future. Again, this takes both members of a couple.

You may have to lay some ground rules in the aftermath - like a policy about internet use or cell phone contact – to help reestablish trust, based on tangible proof that the offending spouse has stopped the affair.

It will also be difficult to rebuild sexual intimacy, but it’s not impossible! Like the rest of this process, it will take time, patience, and honesty with one another.

Because affairs can lead to feelings of insecurity for the wronged, and feelings of guilt and pressure to perform for the wrongdoer, rekindling sexual intimacy can be a challenge. Just like the other steps of the process, it’s best to take things slow, and always with openness and honesty.

As couples traverse this difficult time, eventually the pain will start to fade and trust will begin to return. It’s important to remember that you aren’t alone, that many, many couples have been through similar situations, and come out the other side with a stronger, more stable marriage than before.

It will not be an easy process, but eventually people can find forgiveness and trust, so long as they are willing to work for it. As trust rebuilds and the pain begins to fade, couples can recognize that the past is the past, and cannot be changed. If they truly want to make the marriage work, they can accept this painful part of their lives, put it behind them, and focus their efforts on creating a happy, healthy future!

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,

Is the dissolution of a romantic relationship harder on men or women?

It’s hard to say exactly who has it “worse,” but there’s evidence to suggest that men take divorce especially hard.

A recent study published by the Journal of Men’s Health showed that recently divorced men were much more likely to engage in drug and alcohol abuse, and showed a drastically increased risk for high blood pressure, stroke, and heart disease.

Engaging in risky behavior is definitely a determining factor in the health risks faced by recently divorced men, but what about the mental and emotional pain that leads to this kind of risk-taking?

Who has the harder time in a divorce?

Who has the harder time in a divorce?

There are a few key ways that divorce can impact a man, challenging his self-esteem and leading to depression. In turn, this can lead to risky behavior and problems with physical health.

Now, this may not apply to all men (everyone is a little different, after all), but there are a few common male traits that are challenged (and sometimes dismantled) after a divorce. Here are just a few reasons divorce can be so hard on men:

Paternal Disruption

Much like the “maternal instinct,” many men have a deep urge to be a protector and provider for the family. After a divorce, though, the family dynamic may be upset, and the man may begin to feel that his family does not need him. Even the fact that a divorce disrupts family stability can be a trigger for men to feel as though they’ve failed at their duty to protect the family.

Even if it isn’t really the case (in the rest of the family’s opinion), men may feel like they’ve let their family down – which can certainly make them feel less masculine, less in control, and may lead to some destructive behavior.

Because of this, it’s extremely important that men make every effort to retain a close connection with their children in the event of a divorce. Staying a part of their lives will help reinforce his own sense of self-worth.

Loss of Identity

We use many different aspects of our lives to help form our individual identities, and while we may assume that most men identify the closest with their hobbies and careers, relationships are just as important.

After a divorce, a man may find that his identity as a married man was much more important to him than he thought, and the loss of this connection (and the self image in association with his wife) may leave him feeling very lost.

We may not even realize how closely our personal identities are tied to our spouses until it’s too late!

Tough Guy

As we all know, men (generally speaking) are notorious for not opening up, not being honest about feelings, and not seeking help when they are in emotional distress.

This can create all kinds of problems in the event of a divorce, or even when conflict arises in a marriage. Men who tend to internalize their problems - instead of talking about them or seeking comfort from friends, family, or professionals – can eventually buckle from the pressure they’ve created for themselves. When they are overwhelmed with their own internal struggles, this is when destructive and risky behavior starts to become more and more severe.

Now that we’ve talked a little about the mental and physical health problems that can affect men in the even of a divorce, the best solution is to avoid getting to this point in the first place!

This isn’t to say that women aren’t also affected by divorce, but the data shows just how destructive it can be for men.

With regular time spent together, open and loving communication, and genuine concern for your partner’s happiness, most marital problems can be addressed constructively – well before a divorce (and the associated potential for health problems) happens.

These issues are just all the more reason to keep your marriage strong and healthy!

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With summer in full swing, it’s one of the best times of the year to spend quality time with your spouse. The nice weather gives you all kinds of opportunities to enjoy the outdoors, try new things, and strengthen your relationship.

Here are five ideas to get you started!

1. Go Yard Saling

Sunny days and nice weather mean that many people jump at the opportunity to have yard sales. Set aside a weekend afternoon, check listings for you area, and go browsing for treasures with your spouse! Even if you don’t buy anything, it’s an interesting way to spend time together, and you just might find that rare item you didn’t even know you wanted (probably at a low price too!).

Basketball is a great July date idea!

Basketball is a great July date idea!

2. Shoot Some Hoops

If you don’t have your own backyard or garage basketball hoop, finding one is usually as easy as going to the nearest public park. You and your spouse can shoot around, play one-on-one or “horse,” or join some others for a larger pickup game. However you choose to play, some gentle basketball is good exercise, a little friendly competition, and a way to spend quality time together in the fresh air!

3. Watch The Sunset

July happens to be National Share a Sunset With The One You Love month! On a clear day, head to open country (or a body of water if you live near one), pack a light picnic, and soak up the beautiful sunset with your spouse. It’s a good chance to talk, or just admire the natural color display snuggled up with your other half.

4. Water Fight

Break out the squirt guns, the hose, water balloons, and anything else you have at your disposal, and prepare yourself for a good old-fashioned water fight! This is something you can do as a couple, or even get the kids (and their friends) involved! You could even start under the pretense of washing the car – just exaggerate your bad aim with the hose!

5. Play Paintball

This one might be a little adventurous for some, and just the right amount of intensity for others! Find a paintball field in your area and go for it! They’ll have all the gear you need available for rent. You can play on the same team for some action packed collaboration, or if you’re feeling up to it, compete against each other! Just don’t hold a grudge if your spouse shoots you...

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,

Every year, the 4th of July is a time for cookouts, fireworks, and fun with friends and family. In celebrating our country’s independence, we may gather around the barbecue or the pool, sharing quality time with our loved ones - but how often do we stop reflect on the larger ideas of independence and freedom?

Beyond just reflecting on our history and what the claim of independence meant to the earliest Americans… What about independence and freedom in your own life and marriage?

Cause fireworks with your spouse this 4th of July!

Cause fireworks with your spouse this 4th of July!

A major part of our country’s founding values is the freedom to pursue personal happiness – but many of us have obstacles in our own lives that prevent us from realizing this freedom. In most cases, these obstacles are bad habits or unaddressed issues that get in the way of your ability to find day-to-day happiness.

In terms of marriage, your “freedom” is restricted by anything that’s keeping you from a strong, happy relationship - whether that’s communication problems, trust issues, trouble with finances, household responsibilities… Anything that “oppresses” your happiness.

In a similar vein, you can think of problems in your marriage as being restrictive to your independence as well. When you and your spouse are enjoying a happy and healthy relationship, that happiness comes from within – independent from the ups downs you may experience and unaffected by the little hiccups you may encounter over the course of the marriage. If every little problem or disagreement causes a crisis, your happiness is NOT independent.

So, with 4th of July and freedom from oppression in mind, this holiday is a wonderful opportunity to find the inspiration to tackle the tough issues that are keeping your marriage from being the best it can be.

Just like the men and women who sought independence more than 200 years ago, it will take some bravery and a good deal of hard work, but you can overcome the obstacles that stand in your way to create a marriage free from bad attitudes, miscommunication, and unnecessary fights.

Just remember that Independence Day is the remembrance of a first step toward a new life and a new country. Let this rich piece of history inspire you to find freedom from arguments and the “old” way of doing things – and transform your marriage into one of happiness, independence, and lasting strength.

Happy 4th of July!

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,

Our lives are absolutely saturated with technology, from the email inbox at work to the smartphone in your pocket, Netflix on every device imaginable, new levels to beat in your favorite video game…

It’s all too easy (and common) to get absorbed into this digital world, and it isn’t even always for entertainment or distraction. So many of our jobs, our hobbies, our communications with friends and family, are all hinged on these technological devices – so much of what we do is dependent on staring at the screen.

The problem, though, is that when we’re sucked into Facebook (no matter how important the conversation), or compulsively checking our phones for sports updates or new notifications, we tend to ignore the “real world” around us in favor of the digital world at our fingertips.

…And this is becoming a very real problem, not just for couples, but for all social relationships. Have you ever been sitting at dinner, and all around the table people are fidgeting with smartphones instead of talking to one another?

Is technology ruining your marriage?

Is technology ruining your marriage?

This is hardly an ideal way to spend time with others…

So, what can we do about these technological problems?

First, we have to recognize them as distractions! We have to make this distinction between our physical relationships and our online relationships. We’ve got to remember to put the people closest to us (physically and emotionally) first.

Second, replace some technological pastimes with something else - something more “real life” - at least in part. We’re not asking you to throw your phone out the window or to smash your television set, just recognize the fact that they are taking you away from the very real things happening around you!

Is there some community project you can work on instead of watching your evening TV show? A craft you could work on with the kids instead of playing a game on your phone? Instead of that conversation in your favorite online forum, have that conversation with your spouse…

The problem with being hyper-connected at every moment, to every corner of the world, is that we lose sight of those short-distance connections sitting right in front of us.

There are small steps we can take to break the cycle of techno-obsession though, like simply leaving your phone in the other room during dinner. For TV, try to stick to the shows you know you like and want to see, and cut out the aimless channel surfing.

Taking a few small steps to break the habits already formed will show you that you don’t actually need to check every time you get a Facebook notification. You don’t actually need to beat that next level – you just want to. The world doesn’t fall apart if you miss an episode or don’t check Twitter. Most of the behaviors that harm our in-person relationship aren’t exactly to blame on the technology, but rather the unchecked habits we form around using it.

Technology is here to stay. It’s a marvelous and important way to learn about the rest of the world, to stimulate our imaginations, to stay connected with people abroad, to meet people who share our interests… But we can’t allow it to take us away from the lives we actually live – in the real world, with real people that we can see and touch.

Strive to find a balance, and be honest with yourself about your own tech use. Are you ignoring your spouse? Are internet and technology at the center of some of the problems you struggle with? Acknowledge the bad habits we’re all tempted by, and rise above them to strengthen your marriage.

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,

While every couple’s marriage is unique, sometimes people face problems that others can learn from. With this in mind, we wanted to share a question we recently received - in case you’re experiencing something similar (or know someone who is).


I’m confused. My husband has a short temper and gets angry at the littlest things. When I try to be understanding and approach him with love and patience, it doesn’t solve the problem. When I finally lose my temper and show my anger, he calms right down and apologizes. I don’t like getting angry. My nature is to keep the peace, but losing my temper seems to be the only thing that makes him stop. Is there a better way to deal with this ongoing issue?

– Summer, West Virginia


Dear Summer,

The answer lies somewhere in the middle. While I do not advocate losing your temper… It is perfectly acceptable (and even recommended) to honestly express how your husband’s actions make you feel. Losing your temper normally involves yelling or attacking, using angry statements like, “You’re being a jerk!” “What’s wrong with you?” and “Screw you!”

Does your husband throw temper tantrums?

Does your husband throw temper tantrums?

Even if these statements shut him down, they will eventually cause distance between the two of you. Instead, acknowledge your anger with statements about your feelings. It sound something like, “I am so angry with you right now,“ “I feel attacked,“ “I feel bullied,“ “My feelings are very hurt,“ etc.

It’s extremely important to understand that the real root of your spouse’s anger is fear or pain… However, I do not recommend that either of you believe that it’s your responsibility to manage his fear and pain.

Over the years, a pattern can develop where you both believe it’s YOUR job to make him feel better. This is similar to giving in to a child’s temper tantrum in a candy aisle by buying them candy - it will only increase the likelihood of the child’s tantrum next time you’re at the store.

The more you attempt to take care of his feelings, the more frequently he’ll expect you to do it. Instead, both of you need to take ownership of controlling your own emotions.

On a final note, a marriage is supposed to be a partnership where we have each other’s backs. In a separate conversation (not when he’s mad), offer to help him determine why he is so irritable. Possible explanations may be depression, sleep apnea, long-term stress, and/or insecurity (among plenty of others). Once he opens up, lovingly encourage him do something about it.

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders,