Most divorces happen because of this one reason.

Many people assume the worst when they hear that a couple is getting divorced. They automatically assume that someone cheated, or at the very least, that a very specific, singular problem as at the heart of the split.

The reality, however, isn’t nearly so simple. Infidelity isn’t always at the center of a divorce, and couples may split up for any number of reasons… or overcome any number of obstacles (including an affair) to stay together!

This raises a couple of important questions – first, why do people think this way? Second, what really causes divorce?

Part of the reason people might want to make such assumptions about divorce is, well, fear. If they see divorce as something that happens only as a product of infidelity, then they can put all of their focus on avoiding that specific problem. If there’s no affair, they’ll never get divorced – this is delusional thinking. It’s much more complicated than that, but when people oversimplify these kinds of things, they can feel like less of a threat.

So, why do divorces happen?

The ugly truth is that divorce is the final stage of the long, slow death of a marriage. Divorces happen over time as the connection between a couple falls apart, as they drift away from each other, as they continue bad habits and neglect the important parts of their relationship. All of this, though, is just the lead up – and no matter how bad it gets, divorce is ultimately a choice.

Most divorces happen because of this one reason.

Most divorces happen because of this one reason.

Divorces don’t just “happen” – a couple has to throw in the towel and decide that the marriage is not worth saving.

There’s no single event that makes them happen, and they are by no means inevitable. We can always decide to break the cycles of negativity, to reform our habits, to change the way we treat our spouse and the way we approach the marriage. Just as divorce is a choice, so is building a strong, healthy, happy marriage!

In both cases, it’s a combination of many factors that make or break a marriage.

Divorce is the last straw of a slowly crumbling marriage, but it’s the details that really do the damage – not spending time together, forgetting to compliment and flirt with one another, taking each other for granted, negativity, putting each other down, letting your sex life fall by the wayside… and on and on. The actual decision to divorce comes later. The damage is often done over a long period of time, and even if a divorce is preceded by an affair, what led to the affair? These things don’t just “happen” without circumstances that develop over time.

The good news is, though, that all of these same factors are what can protect your marriage from divorce. By spending time together, complimenting and flirting with each other, appreciating each other’s contributions to the household, staying positive, working together to solve problems, maintaining a healthy sex life… and so on, you can build up the strength of your marriage to make an affair less likely, to keep fights and conflict to the bare minimum, to drastically reduce your chances of even considering a divorce – and above all, to make your marriage happy and fulfilling!

It’s the little things that count, so be aware of how you approach your marriage over the course of each day, not just when it’s “date night” or you disagree with your spouse. How you treat each other - and the amount of effort you put into the relationship - are the biggest factors that lead to divorce, or protect you from it!

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Kristen Bell isn't afraid to seek advice for her marriage!

Actors Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard were married in 2013, and surprised many of their fans and followers with an open admission that they regularly attended couples’ therapy.

Their explanation, though, can help couples all over the world break down some stereotypes and do away with the negative connotations that come with seeing a professional marriage counselor.

Kristen told Good Housekeeping, “You do better in the gym with a trainer; you don’t figure out how to cook without reading a recipe. Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about.”

The couple says that they learned from their past experiences, and decided to incorporate expert advice into their marriage from the get go. Dax says, “In my previous relationship, we went to couples’ therapy at the end, and that’s often too late. You can’t go after nine years and start figuring out what patterns you’re in.”

Kristen Bell isn't afraid to seek advice for her marriage!

Kristen Bell isn't afraid to seek advice for her marriage!


Now, we at SMN don’t think it’s ever too late to seek counseling, but Dax’s point is pretty clear: seeking help now will build important knowledge for maintaining a happy marriage in the future.

This can be a great way to avoid problems before they even start. Counseling can help couples see trouble areas you might not notice yourself, help you learn the tools for effective communication, give you some insight on how to productively deal with conflict – and a number of other benefits.

Dax and Kristen say that seeing a counselor right away helped them overcome some trust issues they faced early in their relationship, and that it’s one of the best decisions they could have made for their marriage.

Too many people think counseling is something reserved for marriages on the brink of collapse, or that marriage tools like the StrongMarriageNow System only help people when they are in trouble. The reality is, however, that professional quality marital advice and information is beneficial to ANY marriage. Being more informed and more prepared will never make your relationship worse.

Take a cue from Dax and Kristen, and consider some tools to strengthen your marriage, even if you aren’t currently struggling. They’re living proof that it’s nothing to feel embarrassed about. Seeking professional help doesn’t mean that your marriage is on the rocks - it means that you’re taking action to make it the best it can be!

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Does your husband want less sex than you?

Common assumptions distort the way many people look at sex, and a sense of embarrassment prevents just as many people from talking about it…

One of the most common misconceptions is that men have basically unlimited libido – and while this of course isn’t true, it can be a huge cause of concern for wives when it seems like their husband’s don’t want as much sex as they once did (or just not as much as their wives).

But in reality, everyone has their own unique and individual sex drive, and that can change over time – even wax and wane over the course of a year! Unfortunately, though, when couples have mismatched sex drives, it can put a strain on the marriage – because one person may feel rejected, may be concerned that their spouse is no longer attracted to them, or simply because of a lack of sexual satisfaction.

While this can be related to problems in the relationship, much more often, a reduced sex drive is the result of medication, aging, illness, stress, biological changes, kids… The list goes on and on, but it’s important to remember: relationship problems are only a small portion of the factors that can impact libido, and more likely, it’s something else entirely.

And just as your husband’s sex drive may be reduced for a number of different reasons, yours might be increasing too!

Does your husband want less sex than you?

Does your husband want less sex than you?

Regardless of the nature of the disparity, though, being on different pages sexually is ultimately going to lead to some difficulty - and if you want to resolve the problem, you have to talk about it!

It is essential, however, that you don’t try to talk about mismatched libidos in the heat of the moment – if you’ve just been turned down, or if your marriage’s sexual difficulties are “on display” right then. Because this can be such a sensitive subject, and because of the common assumption (and resulting pressure) that all men are supposed to be virile and possess a strong sex drive, your husband will likely just clam up if his “performance” – or even his interest – is questioned in such a vulnerable moment.

Instead, wait for a time – outside the bedroom – that you can talk about it in a non-threatening way. Not only is it perfectly normal for you and your spouse to fall out of sync from time to time, it’s also something that can be “fixed.”

First, openly evaluate and talk about your own sex drives – what, even in estimation, does a satisfying sex life look like to you? Once a day? Once a week? Determine where your own desires lie, figure out your husband’s, and look for some understanding and middle ground about what will be satisfying for you both.

Next, don’t be afraid to discuss - and try - some “newness” in the bedroom (if, of course, that’s what you and your spouse want). Sometimes shaking things up can be just what you need to get back in sync with each other.

Now, if the decreased libido is rooted in medical issues or is a side effect of medication, don’t be shy about asking your husband to talk to his doctor. Assure him that many people experience these problems, and that doctors are used to talking about these kinds of things. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about!

Connecting with your spouse sexually is an important part of the intimate bond you share, and if things aren’t satisfying for either party, it can lead to issues in other areas of the relationship. Don’t let these problems go unspoken, or feel bashful about addressing them.

If you want to maintain a strong marriage, it’s critical that you be up front about problems, and proactive about solutions. If that problem happens to be a mismatch in libido, the two of you can work together to overcome it – and continue building the marriage you love to be part of!

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There are some surefire ways to make your wife happy!

The idea of creating happiness is a bit of a tough cookie… On one hand, we all need to be responsible for our own moods and thoughts – it’s up to each and every one of us to take control and find the elements that make up our unique, individual happiness. On the other hand, we should also be making efforts to provide a happy environment for our spouses – doing the things that make each other happy and make the marriage a pleasant, fun, fulfilling relationship to be in!

Unfortunately, too many of us get caught up in the first part, and don’t pay much attention to the other. This is ultimately a selfish way to look at the world, and when you’re only thinking of yourself, you might not even consider the things you’re doing to disrupt the harmony of your marriage.

To help you think more about how you can contribute to your wife’s happiness (and ultimately, make your life happier in the process), here are four tips that are virtually guaranteed to make your wife happy:

1. Stop and Think

When you’re feeling edgy or irritated, or even in everyday conversation with your wife, stop and think before you speak! Most of the snappy, mean, or dismissive things we say just get blurted out before we have a chance to think about how they might affect the situation (and the relationship). If only we’d take a moment to stop to contemplate what we’re about to say, we could likely avoid conflict and keep things on an even keel!

Kindness is easy if we’re self-aware. Don’t let impatient or snappy words just tumble out of your mouth. Think about what you say, and say exactly what you mean!

There are some surefire ways to make your wife happy!

There are some surefire ways to make your wife happy!

2. Take Some Action

Your actions define you even more than your words, and one of the biggest issues couples have is thinking that the other person isn’t contributing enough around the house, isn’t proactive enough in their career, etc. – essentially critiquing the actions of their spouse. This isn’t necessarily the right thing to do, but it’s reality – so what better way to counteract such an issue than with action!

When you see something around the house that needs taking care of, just take care of it! Instead of flopping down to watch TV, tackle a project or work on a new skill.

Above all, just be proactive! Your wife will not only appreciate your contributions and accomplishments, she’ll also be inspired to do more herself!

3. Back Off

We often make the mistake of thinking that whenever our spouse is upset, it’s got something to do with us. There are so many other factors that can affect your wife’s mood – work, kids, problems with friends, the list is endless – so if she says it isn’t you, believe her!

Because of this common mistake, though, we might press the issue, not take our spouse’s word for it, or even make them more upset by not giving them the space they need to sort things out. Learn the difference between problems you can help with and problems you can’t, and when the situation calls for it (or when your wife asks you to), just back off!

4. Listen and Ask

Communication is a critical part of every relationship. Some people (especially men) make the mistake, however, of thinking that “communicating” is something set aside for hashing out problems, for discussing the relationship… For “serious talk.”

In reality, good communication is like a thread that should run through every aspect of the relationship, from boring stuff like finances and groceries, to fun and lighthearted joking around, to serious marriage discussion, to honest (even exposing) talks about fears, hopes, and dreams.

To do this, ask questions and listen! Not only will it help you get to know one another on an even deeper level, as well as strengthen your connection, it will also give your wife a little bit of an ego boost if you’re intently curious on what she has to say.

As with so much of our advice and information, this stuff really applies to both husbands and wives. Making an effort to keep your spouse happy, regardless of what you’re doing specifically, means that you’re focusing on the marriage! Your spouse also has to participate in creating their own happiness, but you can help!

If this is something you’re both focused on, the marriage is likely to be an awful lot happier.

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Should you forgive your spouse for cheating?

In the wake of an affair, you can’t help but feel betrayed. Your trust has been broken. You likely angry, feel lost and hopeless, and are coping with sadness, confusion, and a mix of conflicting emotions.

And somewhere underneath all the hurt, there’s a question that you eventually have to ask yourself:

Can you ever forgive your spouse?

Well, as it turns out, that’s not a very simple question to answer. Even after you’ve had a chance to get over the initial shock and hurt, when the reality of the situation has started to sink in, it’s still a VERY painful place to be. It might feel like the only answer to this question (especially if the emotional wounds are fresh) is a big NO…

But if you truly want to save your marriage and recover from the affair, forgiveness is going to be an essential piece of that puzzle.

Now, there are some scenarios where forgiveness just doesn’t seem like an option, and others where, no matter how tough it might be, finding it in your heart to forgive your spouse can truly bring your marriage to a place even better than it was before.

To even begin figuring out how to approach this very sensitive subject, you can ask yourself a series of questions:

Why Did It Happen?

As painful as it may seem, try to put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. What factors led to the affair? How would you respond in an identical scenario? Even if you can’t accept why they did it, at least try to understand. This will give you important insight into the way they think, and what was truly at the source of their behavior.

Do They Regret The Affair?

You’ll only be able to tell by talking to your spouse, but the degree of regret they display should give you a good idea of how they really feel about their decisions. If they truly feel remorse, they will be looking for real forgiveness and rebuilding their connection with you.

What Was The State of The Marriage Before?

This can be a tough pill to swallow, but most affairs happen because there were already existing problems in the marriage. This doesn’t excuse your spouses actions, but it should help you gain some perspective on the whole situation. Was your connection already suffering? Were there obstacles in the way of intimacy?

Be honest with yourself. If the marriage was already in serious trouble, perhaps you can curb some of your anger, and realize how you both contributed to the climate that lead to the affair.

Have They Cheated In The Past?

The saying goes: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”

If your spouse has a habit of this kind of stuff, or if it’s an ongoing problem, maybe forgiveness isn’t the best option. If it’s an isolated incident and they truly regret what they’ve done, forgiveness may come easier.

Would They Do It Again?

This is the big question. Do you worry that, faced with the same temptations, your spouse would make the same decisions? If so, there are major issues that need tackling – or the marriage might be doomed. To truly forgive someone, you need to be as sure as possible that they will do everything in their power not to repeat the transgressions that need forgiving…

We can never make absolute guarantees, but knowing that your spouse is totally committed to reforming their behavior and rebuilding the marriage makes the whole forgiveness process much easier. It won’t be easy, but this kind assurance will help.

Once you’ve run these questions through your mind and discussed them with your spouse, you’ll have a much better picture of where your marriage was, where it is in this moment, and where it can be if you work to make it better. Only you can decide to forgive, but hopefully these questions will guide you through the tough process, and help you make your decision with confidence and clarity.

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An entire universe of fashion magazines, beauty products, advice columns, dating websites, and beyond are all focused on one general goal: defining what makes women attractive – or, more accurately, selling advice to women about what will make them more attractive.

Now, we’re not here to bash these types of media (though they certainly can contribute to setting unrealistic expectations), but the attractive quality we want to talk about today is often very absent from popular media, who tend to make everything about appearance.

While it is true that people are attracted to certain looks or body types, and that men tend to be more visually oriented for what they find attractive, one of the most attractive qualities a woman can have comes from within.

What’s this quality we’re talking about?

In a word: CONFIDENCE.

Self-esteem makes a tremendous difference in so many aspects of your life (and your relationship). It affects the way you carry yourself, how you speak to others, how you pursue the things you want and need, even your overall happiness. Because of those factors, your levels of confidence directly impact how attractive you appear to others.

But why do we find confidence attractive? For men, women with high self-esteem seem independent and powerful. Such a woman chooses a mate because she wants one, not because she needs one – and that makes that man feel special!

That’s just the tip of the iceberg though…

What does your husband find most attractive about you?

What does your husband find most attractive about you?

As mentioned above, confidence has a way of changing your physical appearance too. Not only do you carry yourself differently, it also has an impact on skin and hair health, and likely helps you smile more, stand up straighter, and simply be more vibrant in everything you do!

Self-esteem also has a way of making you resilient, and that can be an attractive quality as well! It means that you’re ok in your own skin – that you won’t be defining yourself based on your relationship, that you’ll work to solve problems, that you will build and maintain your own friendships, that you’ll pursue your own passions…

And while many men like to feel like protectors and providers, it’s also extremely attractive when women are in touch with who they are, up front about what they want, and not bashful about putting that confidence forward!

Now, gaining confidence can happen in many ways. At the core, it starts with searching within yourself, but you can also build self-esteem by performing “esteemable acts.”

This means doing things that prove (to yourself) that you can achieve goals, that you can face fears, that you are unique and valuable, that you are loveable and loved, and so on! You can even reflect on your past accomplishments (or even hard times you’ve endured) to remind yourself of the strength you possess. Real confidence should come from action!

It’s important to remember that there’s a distinguishable difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is brash and uninvited, it’s more talk than action, and it seeks attention for attention’s sake… Confidence, though, tends to be calm and collected. It’s internal and doesn’t need the approval or attention of others.

Confidence is attractive. Arrogance is not.

This simple quality can have an impact on nearly every area of your life, particularly the relationship you have with your spouse, so take a good look in the mirror and focus on the qualities about yourself that you like the most. These can be the sources of confidence you need to boost you in the right direction – and once you start embracing your self-esteem, there’s no turning back!

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If you’ve been having some trouble in your marriage lately, especially if the problems seem relatively new, it’s absolutely critical that you don’t panic – and accidentally make the issues worse than they already are.

Couples can experience problems for any number of reasons, but when those problems first arise, it can be jarring. One (or both) of you might feel blindsided, or it might feel like the problem has been a long time coming – and is just now coming to a head. Either way, the tension that people feel can affect their behavior. Fights (and saying things we don’t really mean) can lead to resentment, and because of all this, problems have a way of folding back on themselves and making things worse and worse the longer they go unresolved.

So, if you are experiencing problems, what should you do?

Specific problems will, of course, require specific solutions – but in an effort to help you and your spouse keep things from getting worse, these are pretty universal tips to help you ensure you’re in a mental and emotional place that will allow you to tackle the specifics and move beyond your problems.

The first step, as the title of this blog suggests, is to keep your head. Don’t panic or stress out that your marriage is falling apart. This may sound all but impossible, but think about it for a moment – if you’re stressing out, feeling tense, angry, or depressed, you’re more likely to be short with your spouse, which could then learn to more arguments instead of productive communication.

If you think your marriage is over, don't panic!

If you think your marriage is over, don't panic!

Similarly, allowing yourself to panic or wallow in self-defeat will also make you less likely to feel like you can make positive changes to your situation – and that’s going to prevent you from making an effort to improve your marriage.

Next, do everything you can to avoid drama – both in your relationship and in other facets of your life. Conflict tends to breed more conflict. If you’re getting into it with people at work, spending time with chaotic or dramatic friends, etc., this tension will bleed into your marriage.

The same goes for the day to day of your marriage. Drama comes from nitpicky arguments, from pushing each other’s buttons, from a lack of effort to keep things loving and positive…

Picking fights, employing the “silent treatment,” even letting yourself get dragged into battles over finances, the kids, etc., can shift your focus from solvable problems to “dramatic” conflict that only pulls you further away from your spouse. Avoid this kind of drama as best you can.

Lastly, don’t be afraid of counseling! Professional counselors, material like the StrongMarriageNow System, and even the information found in these blogs can help you understand the source of your problems, as well as help you develop ways to strengthen your marriage and get things back to a place of happiness and connection.

Far too many couples wait until things are at their worst to seek help, when they could have tackled their problems much, much sooner. If you’re having problems, don’t hesitate to start working on them! At the very least, don’t be afraid to research your options or start learning about the elements of a healthy marriage!

Material and services that help couples build strong marriages aren’t just reserved for struggling couples. Any marriage can stand to benefit from this type of advice and information – and if you are worried about the state of your relationship, that’s all the more reason to explore ways to improve it!

The main point here is this: DON’T GIVE UP!

Even if things seem bad, hope is not lost. You can adjust your attitude, the way to treat your spouse, and where you focus your efforts to get things back on track.

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Every year, people across the globe celebrate Earth Day on April 22nd. On this day, activists and concerned citizens spread awareness about the importance of preserving our natural environment, protecting the earth from pollution and damage, and the little things we can all do to help keep the planet in good shape!

Small efforts can have a big impact, too – especially when they become habits. Things like recycling, walking/biking instead of driving, using reusable shopping bags, being mindful of water usage, and even fitting your home with energy efficient and resource saving light bulbs, windows, etc.

Earth day is wonderful for awareness and large-scale events, but to really make a positive impact, we have to make efforts to both maintain and improve the planet in an ongoing way. We can’t just think about this stuff on Earth Day…

This is actually a pretty amazing metaphor for maintaining a marriage as well!

Celebrate Earth Day with your spouse this year!

Celebrate Earth Day with your spouse this year!

Just think about it – we can “recycle” our happy memories to remind ourselves why we first fell in love (and why it’s worth it to stay connected), we can “plant” beautiful new experiences by getting out and enjoying life together, and just like the small efforts we can make around the house to reduce our carbon footprints, we can build small habits that keep our marriages healthy and happy over the course of each year.

Giving each other compliments, spending quality time together (away from distractions), making sure to hug, kiss, and otherwise engage in regular physical contact, communicating honestly and openly, and simply making the effort to keep your marriage a daily priority – all of these are practices you can develop to “insulate” your marriage against growing apart or unnecessary conflict.

And like Earth Day, we have holidays, anniversaries, or birthdays that give us extra reasons to celebrate or remind us of the importance connecting to our spouses, but to really make a difference, it takes a little bit of effort every day!

This planet is our home, and it’s the only one we’ve got. Taking good care of it ensures our long-term happiness (not to mention survival). Your marriage has some parallels. It IS a defining part of your life, and taking care of it is the only way to make sure it survives and thrives!

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Every marriage is a two-way street, and while we aren’t completely responsible for our spouse’s happiness, each of us can make an effort to make the person we love’s life easier, happier, and more fulfilling – and by doing so, strengthen the marriage and make your relationship more easy going!

So, with that in mind, here are some ideas geared toward husbands. Take these tips into consideration and provide some happiness in your wife’s life!

1. Know More About Her

What’s your wife’s favorite movie? Favorite band? What’s the last book she read? What’s been going on her work life? If you don’t know the answer to these questions, it’s high time you found out. Ask good questions and really listen to the answers. The more you know about her – especially those “unimportant” little details - the more loved she will feel!

2. Be Deliberately Positive

Take a good look at how you’re interacting with your wife… Could you be making an effort to be a little more cheerful? Are you doing your best to avoid taking your workday stress or other issues out on her?

So much of the way we interact with each other is determined by tone and body language, and when we’re being snappy or irritated, or seem disinterested and aloof, it almost automatically creates a “negative vibe” in a given conversation. Try being intentionally positive – even enthusiastic – when you communicate with your wife, and just watch what a difference it makes!

3. Let Her Know You Love Her In Creative Ways

This is your chance to think outside the box a little bit! It’s always great to remind your wife how much you love her, but for a little added effect, get creative! Leave her cute notes, surprise her with signs of affection like flowers to her office or having her favorite meal waiting when she gets home. Figure out the dates of obscure anniversaries (like the day you moved into your house or your engagement day) and make a celebration out of them.

There are some easy ways you can make your wife happy!

There are some easy ways you can make your wife happy!

It’s not so much the act itself that counts, but that you were thinking enough about her to go the extra mile and let her know how much she truly means to you.

4. Talk About Finances Openly

Because money is one of the most common things couples fight about, you can largely avoid the issue by talking about finances in a totally transparent way. You don’t have to sit down and have a budget meeting once a week, just make it a part of your normal conversation. Let her know what expenses you might have coming up, talk about major purchases together, and encourage each other to be totally open and honest about spending.

5. Perform Random Acts of Kindness

We should be kind to each other at all times, but taking the extra step to do something for your wife (simply so she doesn’t have to) both shows your love AND offers her some relief! This could be anything: taking care of a chore that she usually does, brushing off her car in the winter, offering to take care of a project around the house that she has been talking about, or even one step further – surprising her with a day of pampered relaxation where you handle all the details!

It’s just another way to show how much you care.

6. Don’t Be Afraid of Counseling

Even if things are going ok in your marriage (or even if they’re going really well), it never hurts to learn more about relationships, learn more about how your own thoughts and behaviors affect your marriage, and all of the other things that make your marriage tick.

Whether it’s professional counseling, books, or online resources like StrongMarriageNow, making an effort to know more about the general ins and outs of marriage – and how they apply to your unique relationship – is a way to both make massive improvements AND show your wife how invested you are in having the best possible marriage!

7. Plan Some Fun

Break out the calendar and actually put some dates and fun activities in writing! Plan out your game nights, your dates, your adventures – and stick to them! Not only will this help ensure that you follow through with them, it will also help grow anticipation and excitement as you get closer to the event! It could be anything from putt-putt golf to making resort reservations…

Planning things out shows your wife commitment, and gives you both something to look forward to.

These are just a few ideas for making your marriage run more smoothly. The happier you both are, the more lighthearted you will be with each other, the more room you’ll have for fun and love, and the more likely you will be to let conflicts and potential problems just roll off your backs. To be happily married, first you have to be happy!

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Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have one of the highest profile marriages in Hollywood. Will has been a mega-star for nearly three decades, conquering music, television, film, and presumably, anything he puts his mind to. In 2007, Newsweek called Smith “the most powerful actor in Hollywood,” and it’s easy to understand why.

Jada is also a massive presence in the entertainment world, with TV and film roles, a music production company, a heavy metal band, and a book authorship on her lengthy resume.

The two were married in 1997, and as you might expect, have had to deal with plenty of scrutiny from the media over the course of their nearly 20 year union.

The Real Truth About "The End" Of Will Smith's Marriage

The Real Truth About "The End" Of Will Smith's Marriage

There have been some scandals over the years, usually little more than rumors and tabloid exaggeration, but in a recent interview, Will shared something that he and Jada have come to embrace – something that all couples can consider when struggling through conflict.

When talking about working through problems and facing things when they’re at their worst, Will told Sun newspaper, “Whatever you have is gonna die and you are gonna have to birth something new.”

This can be a tough realization for most couples, but it’s one of the most powerful ways to move forward even when things have been terrible. It’s ok to admit that you aren’t happy, that the marriage isn’t where you want it to be, that the current relationship is NOT good… And it’s ok to call that version of your marriage dead and gone – as long as your new marriage is born right then too.

You can agree with your spouse that your existing marriage isn’t working for either of you, and start fresh – a brand new relationship with the person you’re already married to!

This means putting past troubles behind you, offering forgiveness, and agreeing on some new behaviors that will make THIS marriage different from the one you’ve decided to let die.

Will and Jada have been through a lot, with busy schedules, ambitious careers, raising kids, and the media microscope watching the whole thing… But they’ve learned over the years to roll with the punches, to deal with the problems as they arise, and to be willing to let one version of their marriage “die” so another, better, stronger version can be born.

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com