Singer/pop star Pink and her husband, motocross rider Carey Hart, have been together since 2001, and married in 2005. Over the last decade, however, they’ve had their fair share of ups and downs – including a highly publicized split in 2008.
About a year after their separation, Pink went to some pretty amazing lengths to show Carey just how much he means to her, and it was this huge act of love and appreciation that set them down the path to rekindling their relationship.
After agreeing to perform at Hart’s Las Vegas club for New Year’s Eve, Pink asked her then-estranged husband to visit her hotel room after sound check…
Dressed in his favorite lingerie, she presented Carey with a photo album she’d been working on for months. The album contained keepsakes of their relationship, photos of them together, messages of how lost she felt without him, some not-so-subtle hints that she was ready to start a family, and even the couple’s unsigned divorce papers!
This bold move certainly falls in line with Pink’s larger than life personality, but even beyond that, we can all take a hint from her bravery.
To save her marriage, she was willing to put it all on the table – and it’s that kind of passion that we can all admire. She didn’t beat around the bush, she didn’t send mixed messages, and she certainly wasn’t shy about expressing her true feelings.
…And that’s the primary lesson here: if your marriage is on the ropes and you’re ready to repair the damaged connection to your spouse, you can’t be timid about it. Tell your spouse with honesty and sincerity that you’re willing to make it work, to put aside past hurt and move forward with a “new” marriage with the person you’re already married to.
Maybe it won’t be as extravagant as Pink, but that’s not the point. If you want to change the course of your marriage, you have to take a stand, say how you feel, admit to faults, and agree to move forward with a different, better approach.
Pink and Carey can’t change the past or erase the problems they’ve had as a couple, but through significant moments like the one described above, they were able to realize the connection they share, the love they still have for one another, and the potential to make the relationship work – if they both put in the effort.
Take a hint from Pink’s powerful “get him back” strategy, and confront the problems in your marriage if you want to get it back on track. It is possible, but you’ll have to be brave enough to end the cycle of problems and disconnection. You can do it!