Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and this time of year always conjures up images of classic, storybook romance. Everywhere we look, we see images of cupid, hearts, and all sorts of lovey-dovey reminders of the spirit of the season.
But what if you aren’t feeling particularly close this Valentine’s Day? What if your marriage isn’t in the right place for this kind of romance?
Well, in the spirit of old school romance, this is a perfect chance to look the elements of traditional courtship as a way to bring a spark back into your love life!
This means holding hands, talking at length without distraction or interruption, and generally taking things slowly to focus on building a connection between you and your spouse.
It may seem a little strange at first, but if your bond isn’t as strong as it once was, this is a way to effectively start back at the beginning, to get to know each other all over again!
Even when it comes to the physical stuff, taking it slow and easy can help get the two of you back on the same page, and rekindle some of those “puppy love” feelings from the earliest part of your relationship. Part of this means slowing down to appreciate the whole range of physical affection too, and not just assuming that every act of physical intimacy will lead straight to sex.
From hand holding to passionate kisses, and all of the other physical things you can do between no contact and sex, navigating that territory like you were new lovers can add some excitement and anticipation to your existing love life, and help you to appreciate the entire process and scope of physical intimacy.
In old school courtship, couples took it slow, and made a point to be on their best behavior, to show each other compassion and kindness, and to truly build a bond through time spent together – with no one else around.
Spending the time leading up to Valentine’s Day with a focus on classic romance (and truly romancing one another) will help you to feel connected and involved on this lover’s holiday, instead of put off by the images of love all around you, so take it slow, and let the feelings of love and connection wash over you!
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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
ironically the truth this is a lot of women say that her partner doesn't do the things that use to make her love him. we men think it's important to provide by working 2 jobs staying involved in the children's sports, and taking care of every little piddly things around the house.I've never heard a woman say he doesn't do enough housework or he doesn't spend enough time with the kids. the reasons women lose connection with the guy is he is not focusing on her anymore. snuggling on the couch taking her on a walk looking her in the eyes when you talk is worth more than gold necklaces and earrings.
Strong Marrage Now I love u! (for your mind) (;
This stuff is gold. The old school way is the only way to get that looooove. My wife eats this stuff up
yeah, I do all of that up there and my husband still does not feel our marriage like he used to. help?
Jeremy, I agree the little things we do for our significant others can make a big difference. Here is an article with "Five Surefire Ways to Fall Back in Love."
Jeremy, Thanks for the love!
Zachary, I am glad to hear things are working out for you!
Carol, After years of marriage it is common to lose interest in intimacy. Here is a video on "What To Do When The Attraction Is Gone." I hope this helps you!