As we approach he 4th of July weekend, we can’t help but think about freedom and independence as the cornerstones of American ideals, and about how we can exercise those principles in our own lives.
But what about marriage? Is it possible to find, and even increase, your freedom through marriage? With the right mentality, the answer is a resounding YES!
When we talk about freedom, we’re talking about the ability to pursue happiness, to not be hindered by undue stress or pressure, and to have a hopeful outlook for the future. So, in terms of your marriage, this kind of freedom is absolutely attainable – if you put the time into building and maintaining a strong, healthy relationship.
In strong marriages, both members of the relationship offer each other the support to be the best person they can be, and encourage one another to find and pursue the things that lead to a fulfilling life. Don’t think of freedom as something that has to happen individually – with the support of a loving spouse, you can actually enjoy more freedom, simply because you have another person watching out for you, helping you overcome challenges, and there to keep you steady when you stumble.
There’s also tremendous joy in providing that kind of unwavering support for the person you love!
The kind of happiness and stability you can achieve when you share your life and love with another person is incredible! When you truly connect with your spouse, the freedom you feel to be yourself, to expose your vulnerable side, and to share you biggest hopes and dreams is amazing!
The power and strength that people gain from happy, healthy relationships is virtually unparalleled, and represents a whole new kind of “independence” – it makes you feel like you’ve always got a backup, a person in your corner, a cheerleader, and a place to turn for help.
The pursuit of “freedom” is not about a lack of responsibilities or a lack of commitments. Instead, it’s about finding the things that resonate with your personally, and having the time, health, and ability to dedicate yourself to the things most important to you. A loving spouse will help you do just that, and you can do the same for them!
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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
what are some things I can do from a distance to keep building our relationship? Right now, we are geographically separated due to my employment, have been for two years already, and will be for one more year until I retire from military service. We go back and forth a bit between locations as much as possible. When we are together, the sex is good and we have constant non-sexual affection (cuddling, kissing, hand-holding). Fights are rare.
The secret to a long marriage.....hmmm...commitment? Even though we have had rough times, even though I gave up...he never did. My husband is the most committed man I have ever seen. He never gives up.
First, William, thank you for your service, and congrats to both of your for keeping it together. I can only imagine how stressful that can be at times. We have some tips on keeping the love alive: https://www.strongmarriagenow.com/marriage-advice-keeping-love-alive/ Have you written her letters? It's old fashioned now but will show her you are taking time out of your day to think about her. Send her flowers for no reason, or set her up with a day at the spa, or send her a new movie in the mail (or on Netflix) you both can 'watch' together via the phone or Skype. Technology is a great way to feel close, and I hope the year goes quickly for you both!
Hello, Mrs Adams. I'm happy to hear you both have stayed committed to each other. I hope you both are back on solid ground.