Here's the next video in our blog series “Dr. Dana Answers Your Questions.”
This week’s question is “Can a marriage be saved if only one of us doesn't want a divorce/separation and is the only one willing to work at it to save it?”
Please comment below the video to ask your own questions or just to let us know what you think. We’re frequently shooting new videos and will answer the top questions as part of this ongoing series.
"5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage"
Feeling stuck? Want to save your marriage but aren't sure how? Register for our FREE "5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage" Webinar and you'll discover:
- The answer to "Can my marriage be saved?" Dr. Dana Fillmore will tell you how almost any marriage can be saved even if you’re the only one working on it
- 4 Relationship Myths that are probably getting in your way – Believing in these myths can actually prevent you from saving your marriage
- How to avoid common mistakes you may be making in your marriage. Did you know that most people’s attempts to save their marriage fail?
- The most important thing you need to do to save your marriage – And you’ll be surprised it’s practical and easy to apply for almost everyone
- Clear, straightforward steps that you can take immediately to get your marriage on track
Marital infidelity is a dangerous practice, there is no doubt about that. It poses threats to nearly every aspect of a relationship, from trust and emotional wellbeing to the physical dangers of promiscuity, namely sexually transmitted diseases.
What about a threat to your life?
While the American Heart Association says that sexual activity is ok for most people with heart issues, they did have some interesting statistics.
A recent study has shown that the most likely people to experience sudden death during sexual activity are men engaging in extramarital sex. Typically, these men are with a younger partner in an unfamiliar setting, and have recently consumed an excessive amount of food and/or alcohol. This makes having an affair all the more dangerous, especially if you have a history of heart trouble. The best way to avoid the whole issue is to simply avoid having an extramarital affair.
There are steps you can take to help keep your marriage from becoming at risk for an affair, and help strengthen your relationship regardless of its current status. For more information on “at risk” behavior, and tips to stopping it before an affair develops, check out the Affair Proof Your Marriage System today!
If you've already been impacted by an affair, don't give up, your marriage can actually survive an affair and even be better than ever before if you take the right steps. Watch the video below for 7 Steps to Recover from an Affair to save (and strengthen) your marriage today!
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"5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage"
Feeling stuck? Want to save your marriage but aren't sure how? Register for our FREE "5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage" Webinar and you'll discover:
- The answer to "Can my marriage be saved?" Dr. Dana Fillmore will tell you how almost any marriage can be saved even if you’re the only one working on it
- 4 Relationship Myths that are probably getting in your way – Believing in these myths can actually prevent you from saving your marriage
- How to avoid common mistakes you may be making in your marriage. Did you know that most people’s attempts to save their marriage fail?
- The most important thing you need to do to save your marriage – And you’ll be surprised it’s practical and easy to apply for almost everyone
- Clear, straightforward steps that you can take immediately to get your marriage on track
Dr Dana and Amy Barnhart with The Save My Marriage System
That's right, on Friday January 6th Dr Dana will be making a special appearance on the HealthyLife.net radio broadcast. Some of the topics she will be covering include current statistics on divorce, problems seen in today's marriages and the probable causes, the secrets of happily married couples, and the #1 thing that you should do to protect your marriage, just to name a few. Don't miss this great opportunity to get free advice from Dr Dana herself!
The show will be broadcast on SHARKIE'S PEP TALK with Sharkie Zartman, January 6th at 10:00a.m. PST as well as Saturday, January 7th at 3:00p.m. PST. If you can't listen in on either of those dates, the broadcast will be saved to the archives, so you can listen whenever is convenient for you.
Wishing you a happy holiday season,
Dr. Dana and Amy, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
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We all want something more out of our lives, from a better job to a better marriage, or maybe just a new car or to take a vacation. Whatever it may be, it’s safe to say that almost everyone wants something. Why not make it a reality this year?
To know what you truly want, you have to take a moment to assess what you have. Spend some time, preferably with your partner, to talk about the past year – what made you happy, your favorite memories, what you feel like you missed out on, and what you wanted to achieve that you didn’t get around to.
IMPORTANT: When you’re going over the past year, don’t dwell on perceived failures, this won’t do you any good. Don’t think in terms of failure, it will block you from success. Instead, think about your missed opportunities with a sense of optimism – it’s something to shoot for this year.
Talk to your partner about what’s important to both of you, and work on a plan to achieve those things. It may be useful to rank your goals in order of importance - maybe you’d really like a new boat, but sorting out the tension with your mother-in-law takes priority – when you know what you want to accomplish, it is easier to start working for it.
In your “year in review” conversation, make sure to talk about the good and the bad, and give them equal weight. If you and your spouse had a particularly great time at a friend’s dinner party, discuss the factors that made the evening special, and what you can do to recreate that feeling. If you had a particularly terrible argument, talk about it with a cool head, figuring out how to avoid hurtful language or how to approach disagreements constructively. Allow yourself to learn from the past year’s events, both positive and negative.
Resolutions don’t always have to be about change, either. Think about what you’re grateful for this year, and what you have to do to maintain that in the year to come. Talk about what is working well, and “resolve” to keep on track. If you’re still succeeding in last year’s resolutions, keep it up!
Starting the New Year can be a great opportunity to look at your life in perspective, to assess what’s truly important to you, and to take the first steps toward solving problems. Spend some time with your partner to determine where the two of you want to be, everyone wants something.
For more on how to work with your partner to achieve your mutual goals, check out the StrongMarriageNow System .
Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, StrongMarriageNow.com
It is sad that each year divorce effects almost 2 million people. Here at StrongMarriageNow.com we stress the importance of working through relationship troubles, because in the long run there are no benefits to getting a divorce. This point is driven home by researchers at the University of Arizona in a new study on divorce and death rates. As it turns out, getting a divorce is not only bad for your emotionally, it seems it may also increase your chance of early death. They found the rate of early death to be 23% more likely in adults who were divorced, versus adults who were married. The disturbing part is that this increased rate was found across people of all ages, from eleven different countries. You can ready more about the study here.
If you want to stay happy, healthy, and alive, check out the different programs Dr. Dana and Amy have to help you get your marriage back on track.
Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness!
Dr. Dana and Amy, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
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At StrongMarriageNow.com, we often focus on the personal side of relationships and how you can better relate to your partner. Here is a perfect example of the scientific side of things: some research to show that our psychological states are directly reflected in our relationships.
Read the article here.
Like we have been stressing all along, this researcher found higher success rates for couples who could communicate their negative emotions constructively, without resorting immediately to personal attacks. You see? Problems are solvable if we approach them the right way.
It is good to keep these psychological and biological factors in mind as we assess our own marriages, because they are truly relevant. At StrongMarriageNow.com, we focus more on behaviors and specific experiences that make your relationship unique, but the scientific side is just as important. We are all biological creatures, after all, and plenty of what our brains and emotions tell us stems directly from our physiological and psychological needs (whether we are conscious of them or not).
Keep these things in mind when you communicate with your spouse, and use the tools you learn from Dr. Dana to navigate some of those more “animalistic” behaviors. Our biology is a significant factor in every relationship, but it can’t be an excuse. We must be responsible for our own behavior.
Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness!
Dr. Dana and Amy, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
Find The Best Marriage Advice By Visiting http://www.strongmarriagenow.com
Divorce rates are climbing these days, yet most Americans wish that the institution of marriage was held in a higher light. New information shows that a large number of divorces may be preventable, so there is hope!
William J. Doherty and Leah Ward Sears shed some more light on exactly why sticking it through might be the best option for your overall well being. See what they have to say about the power of marriage here.
Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness!
Dr. Dana and Amy, co-Founders of the Marriage Counseling System.
Want more (and better!) sex in your marriage? Do you feel like sex is a chore? How about more romance with your sex? Do you just want to be wanted?
Understanding What Turns a Woman On
There is a key point that I want you to understand about the average woman's arousal process: most women need to get started in the sexual process before they can even begin to decide if they want to have sex. To use a baseball metaphor then, this means that many women need to at least be “up to bat” or “rounding first base” before their minds and bodies let them know if they even want to finish the game. The problem is that women tend to wait to really feel like having sex before they even “step up to the plate.” (Okay, the metaphor is getting old now - but you get the point...) One of the reasons for this is that most women don't feel safe starting something, if they're not sure they'll want to finish it. In other words, over time, many women stop giving passionate kisses to their husbands while standing in the kitchen because they feel horribly guilty if they get things started but don't end up having sex. This can develop into a pattern of avoidance. Many women even admit to picking fights and feigning the ever-famous headache just to avoid disappointing their husbands. Let me make that clear, they don't do it to avoid sex necessarily; they do it so that neither of them will have to feel the pain of a rejection.
How does this affect men? Well, one of the most common complaints I hear from men is, "The affection is missing. She doesn't touch me anymore; she doesn't kiss me anymore; she doesn't even want to hold my hand." Inevitably, I hear the woman say “Yeah, right. He just wants to have sex.” She believes that if she starts with an affectionate kiss on the couch and doesn’t take it any further, he’ll be mad and she’ll feel guilty. And often, she's right. Men can take this lack of follow-through very personally and can have a very negative reaction, so that it sometimes seems easier for both parties to avoid the whole thing.
So what can we do about it? We talk a lot about that in the StrongMarriageNow System, so come take a look! But remember, sex should be fun! We have to let go of the pressure - the pressure we put on ourselves and especially the pressure we put on our partners.
To learn more about how to have more (and better!) sex using our online videos and downloadable exercises, check out our StrongMarriageNow System.
Are you having trouble with your sex life? How can we help? Please comment below.
5 Secrets to a Sexy Marriage
Want to rekindle the passion, excitement and frequency in your sex life? Register for our FREE "5 Secrets to a Sexy Marriage" Webinar and you'll discover:
- How to have a lot more success in the bedroom. Dr. Dana will tell you how to have the loving, sexy, passionate and fulfilling marriage you want, even if you're the only one working on it
- 4 Myths that may be getting in the way of your sex life - Believing in these myths can actually prevent you from improving your sex life and your marriage
- How to avoid common mistakes you may be making that can put your marriage at risk
- The most important thing you need to do to have an amazing marriage - And you'll be surprised it's not that hard to do
- Clear, straightforward steps you can take to immediately get your marriage on track and make it more fun and exciting
Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com
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Are you feeling like your spouse is checked out of your marriage and just wont commit to working together on your relationship? Are you or your spouse thinking about giving up?
Dr. Dana's got a special video and article for you to help get both of you working together again and get your marriage back on track.
How to Get Your Partner Checked Back In
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