How To Reconnect and Feel Close Again

Here's the next video in our blog series “Dr. Dana Answers Your Questions.” 

This week’s question is from Donna and she’s already heard from Dr. Dana how important quality time alone with your spouse is to a marriage but she’s not quite sure how to do that to really reconnect. She asks:

“What are you supposed to do during alone time?”

Please comment below the video to ask your own questions or just to let us know what you think. We’re frequently shooting new videos and will answer the top questions as part of this ongoing series.

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18 comments

kim 8 years ago

What do you do when they don't even want to have alone time with you

Mike_Olsen_SMN 8 years ago

Kim, Communicate about how you are feeling. Make sure your spouse is aware that you want to spend more time alone. https://www.strongmarriagenow.com/choose-happy-talk-sex/

Carla Miller 7 years ago

I'm a 53 year old woman and my significate other left me last Wednesday after 11 years together. It seems like we argue constantly over small things. She's very outgoing and I use to be,but I got sick and its like we have nothing in common anymore. I so want to fix this, but she won't talk to me at all. What can I do? She's ask me to give her time, but in the mean time she's living elsewhere. HELP!!!

Mike_Olsen_SMN 7 years ago

Hi Carla - It's important to address your trust issues, and to make sure you are taking care of your health. Show her that you are trying to make yourself into the best partner you can be for her, and talk to her to see what she is unhappy with. Then work on your communication and keeping the small things small. https://www.strongmarriagenow.com/save-marriage-regain-trust-its-destroyed/ https://www.strongmarriagenow.com/how-to-stop-a-fight-before-it-starts/

guest 6 years ago

my wife said its over and its to late now what can I do to try to make it work I now what the problems are and I need to fix them

guest 6 years ago

my wife said its over and its to late now what can I do to try to make it work I now what the problems are and I need to fix them

guest 6 years ago

and how do I get her to let me prove that I can change for the best

guest 6 years ago

and how do I get her to let me prove that I can change for the best

Mike_Olsen_SMN 6 years ago

Hi Guest, it's hard to say without knowing the details, but if these problems have been ongoing for a while and been ignored, she is going to need time to deal with them. The best you can do it not tell her you will fix the issue, but to actually just fix it. We often recommend writing a letter to your spouse, telling him why you love them, and telling them what you are working on changing. Show her your plan. https://www.strongmarriagenow.com/blog/can-your-marriage-be-saved-dr-fillmore-answers/

Mike_Olsen_SMN 6 years ago

Hi Guest, it's hard to say without knowing the details, but if these problems have been ongoing for a while and been ignored, she is going to need time to deal with them. The best you can do it not tell her you will fix the issue, but to actually just fix it. We often recommend writing a letter to your spouse, telling him why you love them, and telling them what you are working on changing. Show her your plan. https://www.strongmarriagenow.com/blog/can-your-marriage-be-saved-dr-fillmore-answers/

guest 6 years ago

thanks for your advice i will do that and cross my fingers for the best i felled to give her the love and attention she deserves but what gets me is that why didn't she just come out and say something like hey buddy remember me iam still here but i guess im supposed to know that but anyway thanks for your advice

guest 6 years ago

thanks for your advice i will do that and cross my fingers for the best i felled to give her the love and attention she deserves but what gets me is that why didn't she just come out and say something like hey buddy remember me iam still here but i guess im supposed to know that but anyway thanks for your advice

eric 6 years ago

Ok my wife wants a divorce and she thinks im cheating and i am not very intimate in bed with her and she thinks i dont love her but i just like being around her what can i do

eric 6 years ago

Ok my wife wants a divorce and she thinks im cheating and i am not very intimate in bed with her and she thinks i dont love her but i just like being around her what can i do

lost 6 years ago

after 5 year affair, he ended it because the friendship between him and my husband and I were to much. he never asked me to choose, but I feel I would have chosen him. now I find out he has a gf, and the emptiness is killing me. what do I do, when I don't feel the connection to my husband any more?

lost 6 years ago

after 5 year affair, he ended it because the friendship between him and my husband and I were to much. he never asked me to choose, but I feel I would have chosen him. now I find out he has a gf, and the emptiness is killing me. what do I do, when I don't feel the connection to my husband any more?

Molly J 6 years ago

I lost respect and love for my husband. Thus theses are things I need to try and regain.

Molly J 6 years ago

I lost respect and love for my husband. Thus theses are things I need to try and regain.