Music plays an undeniably major role in our lives. It has the power to elicit emotions and conjure memories, the power to soothe, and the power to energize and motivate. Music is an important part of our entertainment, our religious practices, our education, and, of course, our weddings.
Music is all around us, but how often do you notice it? How often do you notice how it makes you feel?
The ability of certain music to set moods can be hugely beneficial in a relationship. Whether it’s songs you know and enjoy, or something new that moves you in a certain way, music can help build lasting connections between you and your spouse. I’m sure you remember your first dance as husband and wife, and that happy memory has a soundtrack!
There are a few significant ways that music can have a positive impact on your marriage. Try them out!
Around the House
With the right song selections, you can help set the mood around your household. For a romantic dinner, classical or jazz can have just the right calming effect, and may very well relieve tensions and turn potential arguments into normal conversations. Over the weekend, some up-tempo tunes will help give you an energy boost to get work done around the house (and just might have you and your spouse dancing in the halls). In the bedroom, a little mood music might help lower inhibitions and keep things “on track.”
Depending on your tastes (and your spouse’s), you might find different artists or genres of music that really help you in the scenarios listed above, and with today’s technology, it’s easy to make playlists to include all of your favorites!
As a Date
Live performances can be absolutely moving, so why not enjoy it with your spouse? Musical events can make for great dates, both because they can elicit positive emotional responses, and because you will form great, happy memories associated with the specific music of the event! A concert (depending on the style) can be an opportunity to sit in awe of a beautiful orchestral piece, or a chance to dance with your husband or wife.
Mood Enhancement (or Control)
Even for you own individual use, music can help you feel your best – and as we’ve said before, your mood affects every aspect of your relationship. If you’ve had a stressful day, use music to help work it out, whether it’s calming yourself with soothing R&B, or venting along with some heavy metal. If you’re feeling down, put on a song you know cheers you up!
Music is all around us – on the radio, in movies and TV, in concert halls, and on iPods. Perk up your ears a little, and let it bring you closer to your spouse! For more tips on strengthening your marriage, check out the StrongMarriageNow System today!
How do you use music? Let us know! Please comment below.
Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com