How Much Detail Should We Discuss After An Affair?

In the wake of an affair, there are always questions. Even when you’re getting things back on track, the affair has ended, and you’ve agreed to give things another shot with your spouse, you’ll likely have questions about where the marriage is heading and what you’re both going to do differently.

Of course, hanging over all of this (especially for the person who was cheated on) are questions about what happened, why it happened, and who it happened with…

But how much detail should you really get into in this situation?

As you’ll see in the video below, discussing some of the details can help promote trust and peace of mind. Other details – or getting too much into the specifics of what happened and where – can do little but cause more stress and anxiety as we construct mental images of infidelity.

Such images can be extremely hard to shake, and actually cause more damage to the marriage in the long run.

Check out Dr. Dana’s advice in this video, and remember: knowing some specifics can help you move past the affair – but too many gory details can just be painful and end up causing more issues in the long run.


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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com

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