Save Your Marriage: Common Relationship Myth – “People Can’t Change”

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I hear this all the time. I want to tell everybody right here, right now, that this is completely false!! In fact, the opposite is true. People change all the time. It’s actually the one thing we can count on in life. I mean really, most of you wouldn’t be reading this right now if one or both of you hadn’t changed – changed how you feel about each other, changed what you wanted out of life, changed how you treat each other. People change throughout their lives. The question is how motivated are you to change for the better? To change in a way that you grow together instead of apart? And do you know how?

The second part of this myth is that “people will always go back to old habits.” Now the tough part of this myth is that there is a small element of truth here. It is true that people will return to old habits – if they don’t learn a new way to do things and then put those new skills into action. But, the real question here is “Can people permanently change?” And the answer to that question is: Absolutely!

Yet one of the biggest mistakes people make is that while they may have good intentions to make positive change(s), they don’t actually follow through on learning how to change or learning how to make those changes permanent. This is why they fall back into old patterns of behavior.

Our StrongMarriageNow System is specifically designed with that in mind – to help people to learn how to change, and how to make those changes permanent. That’s why we created our System for people just like you!

To learn more about Relationship Myths using our online videos and downloadable exercises, check out our StrongMarriageNow System.

Have you recognized any other Relationship Myths holding you back? How can we help save your marriage? Please comment below.


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marelize 13 years ago

should i keep asking questions about the affair or should i yust let it go i do want to know but when and if he tells me something i keep thinking about it and it is driving me crazy please help

Shelly 13 years ago

I am interested in purchasing one of your programs. But I don't like to watch videos & prefer instead to read. Do you offer any of these programs in manuscript form?

amybarnhartsd 13 years ago

The programs come with a book version of the material as well as workbooks so you can read instead of watch the videos.

amybarnhartsd 13 years ago

The balance between asking questions and letting go is one that you need to be able to decide yourself. Here's an article that may be helpful to you in recovering from an affair. Hope this helps...

Lisa 11 years ago

Really wish I could get my husband to make the changes we need to save our marriage but he left 3 months ago and though when I start talking divorce he gets angry and defensive he's not willing to do the work to fix our problems either. So sadly all the information I seek out is for nothing because I can't get him to TRY. So frustrating.

Parrot 11 years ago

I do believe that people change, however, I can't understand why my partner has no will to do the only one thing that I've been asking for in the past 7 months--to come to bed by 1am the latest at least one night per week. All is because I desperately wanted to spend some quality time with him. This worries me for our future together. I don't know how much longer I can tolerate such situation. We've been together for 3 years before we moved in together 7 months ago. I can't get him to try to work on our relationship. I'm now so confused and not sure if I should consider giving up.

Marge 9 years ago

My husband is a good man we have beenmarried for 21 yrs through out our marriage if we have an argument he is ready to pack his cloth to leave he make me very unstable. He said I am too jealous because he have a lot of female friends which I fe that is not appropriate He left the marriage before, move in with another women things did not worked out and he return back home. I don't trust him at this point and don't know what to do. I feel I have a low self esteem because I took him back they say for better or for worst I am feeling really tired and don't know what to do. Please help!

Mike_Olsen_SMN 9 years ago

Hi Marge - It sounds like you both need to work on your trust and communication.