The holiday season is all about love and connection with family and friends, but even if we’re having good times, sharing gifts, and so on, it’s easy to forget to pause – and actually express the love and appreciation we’re feeling.
With that in mind, here’s an idea for a wonderful gift that wont’ cost you a single cent!
This year, set aside a few minutes to spend totally alone with your spouse, away from all distractions or kids or guests. Use this time to ask for their undivided attention, look them in the eye, and let them know how much you love them! Share three very specific things that you appreciate and love about them, let them know how they make your life better, what the marriage means to you, and that you look forward to spending the coming year with them.
It doesn’t cost a thing, and the joy it can bring to your spouse is priceless. It’s a way to take a step back from some of the chaos the holidays can bring, and reassure your partner that you’re thinking of them, that you love them, and that you are invested in your future together.
Just taking the time to offer this gift – and doing so with sincerity – can be a boost to your spouse’s confidence, helping them feel more connected to you and more committed to the marriage. Even if you have to go right back to the family gathering (or whatever may be demanding your attention), the loving moment the two of you shared will stick with you!
Having this heart-to-heart can even help you feel more committed to working on the problems you may have as a couple. By recognizing the love you have for each other and sharing a special moment, you are also recognizing that the marriage is worth working for.
Even if you say “I love you” often, taking the time to offer this gift of direct appreciation, praise, and loving words lets your spouse really know how you feel deep in your heart.
Take the time to let your spouse know just what you love about them, and grow your connection throughout the holiday season!
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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com