Dr. Dana's Help with Parenting
End The Conflict Over The Kids
Are you and your partner struggling with parenting your children and having difficulty agreeing on what appropriate parenting should be? Click on the button below to discover how to improve the communication in your relationship and resolve issues immediately or check outDr. Dana's advice on resolving conflict and fighting fair in a marriage.
Video Transcript - Dr. Dana's Help with Parenting
Hi, I’m Dr. Dana. Thanks for taking our survey! The results indicated that you and your partner are struggling with parenting your children. Maybe you’re even having difficulty agreeing on what appropriate parenting should be. The most common contributing factor to conflicts over parenting is, actually, lack of effective communication. How should we speak to the kids? How do we reward the kids? How do we punish the kids? How do we discuss things when we disagree? What are our family’s priorities? etc.
Many parents believe that it’s acceptable to parent their children from two different perspectives. This is not true and, can not only lead to increased conflict between mom and dad, but also leads to increased conflict between the children and the parents. Therefore, the first and most important thing a couple must do to resolve the conflicts over parenting is to get on the same page.
This is difficult for many couples to do as it requires compromise. Compromise, however, is often misunderstood. What most people think compromise means is meeting halfway, somewhere in the middle. The problem with this is that sometimes one person really does have the better idea. They may have more information, more experience or simply a better understanding of the situation and what needs to be accomplished. A compromise is actually finding agreement through mutual acceptance: presenting all of the available information that each of you has, understanding each other’s points of view and then agreeing on a solution. Learning to compromise and getting on the same page will dramatically reduce conflict over parenting and dramatically increase harmony in the home.
Resolving conflict over parenting requires learning communication skills like understanding each other and resolving conflict. I teach the communication skills that can help you resolve your parenting questions as well as even more important relationship skills, like productively handling conflict and learning to understand each other, in a series of videos called Effective Communication.
If you’d like to improve the communication in your relationship and resolve issues immediately, click on the button below and check out our Effective Communication for Couples video series today!