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Can my marriage be saved?
If you'd like to know clear steps to save your marriage, Dr. Dana offers a teleseminar: “5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage.” If you'd like to listen in sign up for the replay.
We also have several articles on our blog about saving your marriage. This article answers the following questions and is particularly useful in answering the question "Can My Marriage be Saved?"
- Can my marriage be saved?
- My spouse isn't willing to work on the marriage, is the marriage over?
- What do I do if my partner has moved out, is dating someone else or has even already filed papers? Please help!
- How do you know when to call it quits?
My marriage has been impacted by an affair, what can I do?
If you've been impacted by an affair, we have an article on our blog that covers six steps to recover from an affair. The good news is that if you handle the situation correctly, your marriage can actually be better and stronger than it was before the affair.
In addition, Dr. Dana talks about how to save your marriage and the steps to recover from an affair on the “5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage” teleseminar. If you're interested, you can signup for the replay.
How do I get over past hurt?
Getting over the past is all about learning how to forgive and starting fresh. Letting go, moving on and starting a new beginning is difficult to do but is a gift you can give your marriage. Here four articles on Forgiveness and a New Beginning:
- Why Can Being Married Hurt So Much
- Learning to Forgive
- How to Get Past The Pain and Have a New Beginning
- Marriage Golden Rule: What The Beatles Knew About Marriage
How Should I Handle Feeling Second Best?
Wondering what to do if you're feeling second best? Getting over that feeling all comes down to a matter of prioritizing your marriage. Here's Dr. Fillmore's answer to your question.
Many of us have our priorities way off. When we're married, we spend a lot of time together as husband and wife with friends and family, paying bills, taking care of the home, interacting as a couple. We also spend a great deal of time as individuals in our separate jobs with separate interests. Many of us spend a lot of our time as a mom and a dad, playing with the kids, enjoying family outings. But most of us spend very little time as a “man” and a “woman” together. This is often at the root of many of the complaints that bring couples to therapy: “We just don't feel connected anymore,” or “He doesn't pay enough attention to me,” or “She's always mad at me,” or “We aren't having enough sex.” When I hear these complaints, I know for a fact that these things are happening, in large part, because among their priorities, spending time alone together is usually last on their list.
In order, our priorities should be:
- Family and Friends
Additionally, most married couples do not spend nearly enough time alone together. You might have heard me say this in the Most Important Lesson video on our website, that most married couples spend as little as one hour a week alone together. The average couple with kids sometimes none. The average couple having an affair can spend up to 15 hours alone per week. Isn't that unreal? I recommend that couples spend at least 8 hours alone together every week. That means no kids, no TVs, no computers, 8 hours alone so they can talk, and connect. This is so important, we actually have three videos dedicated to this point in the StrongMarriageNow System.
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