How to Get Your Checked Out Partner Checked Back In

The first step to getting back to those loving feelings is for both members of the couple to recognize that you are both responsible for the state of your marriage. Yes, maybe one person stepped over the line and checked out of the marriage, but both partners got the marriage there. Accepting some of the responsibility can be difficult for both parties to do, but it is essential in order to move forward.

Next I’m going to suggest that you try our free videos. How, you ask, am I going to get my checked out partner to do that? When attempting to get your spouse to listen to you, try these five steps.

First, tell them that you have found something that you think both of you can learn from and both of you can benefit from. It’s vital that they feel no one person is being blamed for the state of the relationship or they may become defensive and be unwilling to watch.

They may ask, why should I listen to this person? So, the second thing I suggest you do is briefly explain that I’m a Clinical Psychologist and Couples Therapist with an excellent track record. Tell them my style is straightforward and to the point and won’t waste their time.

Thirdly, point out that they can watch the StrongMarriageNow videos privately on their own computer and in their own time. Many of you may have already tried to get your spouse to go to couples counseling or read a book but those things take money and considerable time. Watching the videos will only take around 20 total minutes of their time.

Remind them that you’re still willing to work on the relationship and are willing to do whatever it takes to make each other happy again. This is important because it’s vital that they understand that you’re not asking them to check back into the relationship that you had before. The truth is, that relationship wasn’t working for either one of you and whatever either of you tried to do to fix it wasn’t working either or you wouldn’t be reading this. So instead, make sure they know that you’re also willing to learn the skills necessary to have the marriage you both want from now on.

And finally, ask them, don’t tell them. Kindly ask them to please take the time. Point out that surely your years together, and for many of you, your family, is worth it.

To learn more about how to get your partner checked in, we offer a special 2-video package to help you and your spouse get motivated to work on your marriage together. Take a look at “How To Get Your Spouse Checked Back In”

Have you recognized any other issues holding you back? How can we help? Please comment below.

Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com

Find Out What It Takes To Work On Your Relationship Problems. Visit https://www.strongmarriagenow.com

Related Posts

How Do I Get My Husband To Understand My Feelings

Are you frustrated that your husband just doesn't understand you? Are you feeling lonely and isolated? It may be that the way you and your husband communicate is contributing to the problem. It doesn't have to stay that way. Dr. Dana Fillmore, Author, TV Relationship Expert and Clinical Psychologist offers Matt and Angie some new

5 Important Truths You Need to Know After an Affair

Recovering from an affair is no easy process. It takes time, it hurts a ton, and ultimately, it requires you and your spouse to both face some troubling realities about the marriage, where it went wrong, and how you can get things back on track… With that in mind, there are some very straightforward facts

Is Fighting In Front of The Kids Ever OK?

Put as directly as possible – no. No it isn’t. …But this isn’t a simple question. What’s the fight about? How old are the kids? Do the young ones even understand what’s going on? Frankly, none of those questions matter. It’s not OK to fight in front of the kids about any topic, no matter

The Most Common Fight - And How to Stop It

For all of the issues that can come up in a marriage, one is far more common than all the others. It’s something each and every one of us has to deal with. We all stress about it… The problem is MONEY. No matter how much (or how little) we seem to make, the problems

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Save Your Marriage With These 3 Free Videos
WATCH NOW

HOW TO FIX YOUR MARRIAGE

3 VIDEO SERIES INCLUDES:

  1. Discover how to feel the love again in your marriage
  2. Get your partner checked back into your relationship
  3. Get past the pain and move forward

FREE VIDEO SERIES NOW:

close-link