In a 2009 Study by marriage counselor, M. Gary Neuman, it’s estimated that 1 in 2.7 men will cheat. These statistics are shocking. Yet sadly most people - men and women alike - still don’t know the real reasons why men cheat. Here’s a hint. It’s probably not what you think.
In fact, in Neuman’s study, 92% of men surveyed said it was not about the sex. “The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling under-appreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures.” The real reason men have affairs is to meet their emotional needs. Men long to feel respected, appreciated, admired and wanted. Additionally, they want to feel like they are pleasing their wives. So, are most cheating men having sex with their flings? Of course they are, but the reason they’re doing it is to meet the emotional needs that are not being met in their marriage.
Many people at this point believe the answer is obvious: To keep your man from straying, have more sex! Unfortunately, that’s just not enough. While sex does go a long way to helping a man feel respected, appreciated, admired and desired, it’s not the only thing that matters. He must also believe his spouse feels this way about him in her heart.
If you’re a woman reading this article, you might be asking yourself, “But, what if I’m not feeling these things?” What if you don’t respect him much? What if you really are angry at him all the time and you don’t feel particularly pleased with him? Most women take the approach of letting their husbands know how disappointed they are. This can take the form of nagging, pouting, complaining or even open hostility. Unfortunately, this approach not only doesn’t help the husband improve, it can lead him to seek out someone who does appear to adore, value and need him.
If you’re a man reading this article, you might be asking yourself “How do I get my wife to meet my needs?” especially if she’s acting like the woman just described above.
The real answer for both men and women is to work on the marriage and make it a relationship of mutual satisfaction, affection and love. Every marriage has the potential to be wonderful. If you both put in the time and effort, you will truly appreciate each other and make each other happy assuring that your home, each other and your family is where you want to be every night.
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We never like to see a marriage fall apart, especially over infidelity. With all of the accusations flying around, there is no saying what really happened between Demi, Ashton, and any of the alleged third parties they may have been involved with. We do know, however, that things have gone sour, and we wish we could have helped!
Affairs are treacherous business, and threaten everything that marriage stands for. Stories of their “open marriage,” rumors of cheating behavior, and even the temptations of the celebrity lifestyle are all indicators that this relationship needed guidance. As they move forward with divorce proceedings, we wanted to offer some direction if you are facing similarly trying times. An affair doesn’t have to be the bitter end, and if you have been through one, we can help! It’s never too late to save your marriage.
Dr. Dana has outlined 7 Steps to Recover from an Affair, 7 principles that could have saved Demi and Ashton from divorce, and can save you too as you face this extremely difficult time in your relationship.
Despite what many people think, most of the time affairs aren’t really about the sex at all, but are rooted in much deeper emotional issues. Confronting these issues honestly can put your marriage back on track, if you’re willing to work for it. With Dr. Dana’s 7 Steps, you can get your marriage back, rebuilding trust and rekindling that spark, even after an affair. We only wish we could do the same for Demi and Ashton!
Watch the video below for 7 Steps to Recover from an Affair to save (and strengthen) your marriage today!
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- How to avoid common mistakes you may be making in your marriage. Did you know that most people’s attempts to save their marriage fail?
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- Clear, straightforward steps that you can take immediately to get your marriage on track
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According to an annual survey of 101 lawyers in the United Kingdom, the leading reason couples site for divorce is no longer an extramarital affair. This is a major shift as since the annual survey began in 2003, an affair has been consistently the most cited reason couples divorce. This year, according to those that took the survey, the majority 27% of couples now say that "growing apart" is their reason for ending their marriage.
Read this article from the Telegraph about this survey and remember that there are steps you can take to Affair Proof Your Marriage and get your partner Checked Back In.
Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness!
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- How to avoid common mistakes you may be making in your marriage. Did you know that most people’s attempts to save their marriage fail?
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Many of you have told us that you’ve been impacted by some sort of infidelity and you reached out to us at StrongMarriageNow.com to ask for help. On our teleseminar last week, “5 Secrets to Save Your Marriage.” Dr. Fillmore address that very concern.
The most common questions you asked about affairs were: “Is my marriage over?” “What can I do to save my marriage?” and you asked lots of questions about inappropriate “friendships.” Got another question? Ask us! or comment below.
Want to know Dr. Fillmore’s answer to: “My spouse cheated, Is my marriage over?” “Can my marriage be saved after an affair?” and whether or not you should be worried about your partner’s “friendship.”
