Strong Marriage, Strong Heart?

On January 26, 2012, in Keeping The Love Alive, Marriage Advice, by Dr. Dana Fillmore

We know that a satisfying marriage has positive effects on psychological wellbeing. Happily married people are, generally speaking, happier people! People gain a sense of satisfaction when they are wanted and needed, especially when that sentiment is openly communicated in a relationship.

A recent study by the American Psychological Association has determined another fantastic benefit of a strong marriage: happily married individuals are more than three times as likely to survive coronary bypass surgery. Is a blissful marriage good for your heart?

The actual figures are staggering, showing that 83 percent of happily married women were still alive 15 years after heart surgery. Compared the 28 percent survival rate for unhappily married women, and a 27 percent survival rate for unmarried women, the evidence is pretty convincing!

While happily married men shared the 83 percent benchmark with their female counterparts, they fared better than the women for unhappy marriages at a 60 percent survival rate. 36 percent of unmarried men survived, lending further weight to the link between marriage and coronary health.

This study shows us a few important things. Not only does it indicate the importance of satisfying marriage for women in particular, it highlights a very basic principle: a strong, loving marriage gives people something to live for!

This is, of course, a two-way street (like all relationships). On one hand, the individual who has undergone coronary bypass surgery, if happily married, has a built in support system – namely the love and encouragement of their spouse. A loving husband or wife will most likely visit the hospital, take part in decision making, being an integral part of the recovery process, and be the first to hear about any problems. Having a trusted person to talk to about your fears can go a long way (and heart surgery is a scary thing!).

On the other hand, a happy relationship can give a patient “something to live for,” in a sense. They may be thinking about more than their own happiness, and be sure to follow the doctor’s advice, post-surgery, to be healthy and happy for their spouse.

This study also indicates that happily wed couples may be better prepared to face all kinds of adversity, as long as they have one another. This is the kind of personal strength you gain from a positive relationship. You are part of a team, and with each other’s support and compassion, you can overcome great obstacles. A strong marriage leads to a happier, healthier you!

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003407295494 Isabella

    he just dident feel the same. well i tried doing the otpoise of what i would normally do.- i took it Very calmly and showed NO sadness.- i walked away without crying infront of him.. this makes him re-think breaking up with you. because you are turning the rejection on him. It is a scientific fact that when you are in love your brain sends off chemicals so that you only think of one person all the time. and once you get rejected you feel like you want that person more. - this is important. you need to focus your mind more. please do this.Always keep thinking in your mind that he is wanting you now he WILL soon come carwling back (just like mine did) TRUST ME there is alot of hope- stop calling him stop texting him .BUT do not shut him out of your life completely remember your chances of getting him back are less and less ech day.- dont call him. but text him or msn him and ask if you can still be freinds becasue your over him already.-never talk to him in the morning. only at night so it looks like you werent desperate to talk to him.-another very important point is.. BE individual. theres nothing guys think is sexyer then a woman who dosent need there man .but wants them.- think about how you were befor you met him. be that person that he fell min love with.whenever you are around him or if you see him somewere . ALWAYS have a smile on your face and look like nothing happend that was drastic on your life.- whenever you guys talk. always say you have to go befor he does. even if you dont have to go make it look like hes not your priorities enymore. bottom lines.FEEEL and look happy. you will only look as happy as you feel on the inside.let him realize that you dont need him. and you AGREE WITH THE BREAKUP.make him come to you. DO NOT get revenge.go out with someone else.intervein with his new relationship (if hes in one)make it look like your doing bad without him.do not go on other general websites that gives you tips on how to do these things they are directed more at girls and thoes work for onlly girls. becasue the guys mind is way different. Remember YOUR NOT ALONE. there are alot of people going through this. And your relationship is not over yet.Hope this helpedROXY =)*** directed only AT girls for guys to know how to get them back.RE: exohlove i know but there are cirtain situations were the girl did somthing and maybe she want him back.. maybe its her fault.also after doing this he realizes that he wants to change.. it dosent always work that way.. but you have a good point.. he CAN get his feelings back for you its not like there lost forever



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