July 30, 2014 12:54 pm
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First let me say that I've heard from so many people that have a difficult time getting their partners to commit to going to sex counseling. They worry that if he/she won't go, that they are not committed to the relationship and they don’t care about their future.
Fortunately, in most cases, this is far from the truth. The fact is that many people are uncomfortable with going to couples counseling, much less sexual counseling. This is due to many factors:
Some people are more comfortable leaving things as they are, no matter how bad, rather than talking about and dealing with painful issues.
Many people are uncomfortable discussing what are often very sensitive issues with someone they don't know.
Going to a sex therapist can make some people feel like a failure and can feel threatening.
Some people are concerned about the time and the costs of sex counseling.
Here are some alternatives to consider if seeking sex therapy simply isn't an option for you.
Try seeing a counselor individually to help you learn how you can improve your life and influence your sexual relationship.
There are some great books that you can explore: "Getting the Sex You Want” by Tammy Nelson and “Sexual Healing” by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D.
It may be that your approach to working on your sexual issues is creating more of a rift between you. Many couples are hurt and angry with each other and end up blaming and shaming each other. You may want to try using a kinder, more loving approach to help turn the tone of your sexual interactions around.
Check out some of Dr. Dana’s free online sex therapy videos to help you improve your sexual relationship. Men are typically more open to watching something privately on their computer. Many of our customers have felt that being able to access our sex counseling materials online has been extremely useful. If you're interested in a free sample of Dr. Dana’s advice, sign up to get 3 FREE Sex Success Secrets!
Let me tell you why so many couples fail in traditional couples counseling - the sad truth is that not all therapists are created equal – Now, I recognize that might sound strange coming from me, but let me explain what I mean: Couples should not go to a traditional therapist that isn’t qualified to do sex therapy. Many people, (and therapists for that matter), don't realize that sex counseling is very different from individual counseling. So much of it is teaching - teaching couples how to truly communicate, how to resolve conflict, how to learn and understand their partner's point of view, etc.
The StrongMarriageNow System is a great alternative to face-to-face sex therapy and in fact, we’re really seeing that in most cases, watching the online videos in the privacy of your own home and completing the exercises is actually better than most face-to-face therapy. Want to get a free sample of the System and Dr. Dana’s Sex Success Secrets? Get 3 FREE Couples Counseling Videos.
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In the StrongMarriageNow System we talk in depth about what we call The Most Important Lesson. We point out that most couples do not spend nearly enough time alone together. Most couples spend as little as one hour a week alone together; the average couple with kids, sometimes none. The average couple having an affair can spend up to 15 hours alone per week. Isn’t that unreal? I recommend that couples spend at least 8 hours alone together every week.
I’d like to explain what’s really going on here by using what I like to call Mother Nature’s big joke and the joke is this: in general, a woman has to feel connected in order to want to have sex; a man feels connected by having sex. Why is understanding Mother Nature’s Big Joke so important? Well, It's important because men get a seriously bad rap for wanting sex. Sex makes men feel connected, appreciated, safe, and loved. And often women misunderstand this.
We answer this question at length in our teleseminar, but let me just say that the answer is: Absolutely Not! A relationship can be saved after an affair, if you both commit to forgive, get the relationship skills you need, and commit to work together on the relationship thereafter.. In fact, the relationship can not only be saved, it can be made even stronger and happier than ever before!
Some of you may have been in pain in your sexual relationship for quite some time. The only way to make it stop is to TAKE ACTION and get your FREE Sex Therapy Videos ! Begin to apply Dr. Dana’s advice to your sexual relationship right away!
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