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Are you experiencing Marriage Problems?
Looking for Relationship Advice?
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Worried about Breaking Up?
Before you go that far, if you feel as if you need to information on common couples problems and solutions, check out Dr. Dana’s free advice on ways to Solve Your Marriage Problems!
Some of the questions we are most often asked are: “How can I solve the problems in my relationship if I can’t get my partner in on it?” “How can we save our relationship when we are no longer connected?” “We have problems with communication - can our relationship be saved?” “My partner cheated on me and now we have problems with trust - can our relationship be saved?” “Divorce rates are so high - can my marriage be saved?” These are all variations on the same question - “Can I save my failing marriage/ relationship? Is it even possible?” The answer is: Absolutely! Almost every relationship can be saved and even made much better than ever! But let’s face it, not everyone wants to save the relationship they currently have - meaning not everyone wants to keep the marriage/relationship the way that it is. However, I’m talking both about saving the relationship and making it better, making it the relationship the two of you actually want. But in order to do that it’s important to keep this one thing in mind: it’s completely normal to fall in and out of love in a long-term marriage/relationship. People who are married for a long time are not typically “in love” with their partner the whole time. They fall in and out of love many times over the years.
You know that 80-year-old couple that’s dancing at the wedding who clearly adore each other and still look madly in love? Well, those people will tell you that they were not madly in love every day for the last 60 years. In fact, there were many times when they wanted to toss each other out of a window! Still, they’ve weathered life’s ups and downs and they genuinely adore each other today. We all want to be that 80-year-old couple, right? We want people to say, “Wow, look at them, I want that kind of relationship.” Well, that couple will tell you that it took two things to get to that point: commitment and the willingness to work on the relationship.
In fact, here’s one of the marriage statistics that we quote in our upcoming book: Research indicates that 86% of unhappily married couples that stay together and work on their marriage report being much happier later on in life. In other words, they’re glad they did. So for those of you who ask, “Can my relationship be saved?” now you know that you can save your marriage/relationship and that falling in and out of love is completely normal. I hope you have hope again. I hope you know that if you’re willing to do the work, things can get considerably better for both you and your partner.
Dr. Dana has created the StrongMarriageNow System to help you solve your marriage problems and transform your marriage. Do you want to improve communication? Do you want to have fun together again? Do you want to dramatically improve your sex life? Want to stop fighting? Solve Your Marriage Problems with Dr. Dana’s Advice.
The StrongMarriageNow System is a great alternative to face-to-face relationship counseling and in fact, we’re really seeing that in most cases, watching the online videos in the privacy of your own home and completing the exercises is actually better than most face-to-face therapy.
Being happy as a couple has a lot more to do with knowing how to be happy as a couple than it does with who you’re with. If you find you’re in a situation where you’re feeling disconnected and unhappy, take heart, things can get better. There are six major skills that couples need to learn in order to have a strong and healthy relationship. These are:
Spending Time Together
Understanding Each Other
Agreeing on Money Issues
Fairly Dividing Responsibilities
Having a Satisfying and Healthy Sex Life
Couples that are strong in these areas have the best possible chance at having a long-term happy relationship. If you feel like your relationship could use some work in one or more of these areas, take action and sign up for our email list today!
We are often asked if our System can really work if it’s not face-to-face? And the answer is, absolutely! In fact, as we’ve mentioned above, sometimes it works better! We’re really seeing that in most cases, watching the online videos our System provides in the privacy of your own home along with using our workbook and completing the exercises, is actually better than most face-to-face therapy. Again, this is because unlike traditional therapy, we are not mediating a truce between the two of you – instead we are offering information – teaching you the skills you need learn to make your relationship, your marriage, a happy, successful one.
So if you are feeling as if your relationship needs work, if you genuinely believe it is time to save your relationship, before you go any further, first, TAKE ACTION, and Solve Your Problems With Dr. Dana’s Help!
In the StrongMarriageNow System we talk in depth about what we call The Most Important Lesson. We point out that most married couples do not spend nearly enough time alone together. Most married couples spend as little as one hour a week alone together; the average couple with kids, sometimes none. The average couple having an affair can spend up to 15 hours alone per week. Isn’t that unreal? I recommend that all couples spend at least 8 hours alone together every week.
Unfortunately the answer is the same as the answer above - you have to spend time together. If you do not continue to connect throughout your relationship, you run the risk of being with a stranger. The reality is, it is virtually impossible to be in love with someone you don’t really know and are not connected with; and it is virtually impossible to truly know someone with whom you never spend time; you can certainly “love” them – but be “in love”? No. There’s a reason why 90% of long distance relationships fail within a year. They simply don’t spend enough time together.
We answer this question at length in our teleseminar, but let me just say that the answer is: Absolutely Not! A marriage can be saved after an affair, if you both commit to forgive, get the relationship skills you need, and commit to work together on the marriage. In fact, the marriage can not only be saved, it can be made even stronger and happier than ever before!
In our videos, we tell you quite bluntly – don’t fight. Obviously there is more to it than this - you need to figure out ways of communicating that actually work and fighting is not one of them. The StrongMarriageNow System goes into considerable detail on better ways in which you can communicate with each other. But to briefly answer this question,let me offer some information that at the very least should help you and your partner understand what is happening when you do fight with each other. Here it is: Anger is always a secondary emotion for fear or pain. When someone is angry, they are hurt or scared - every time. So the next time the two of you start to fight, take a moment and ask yourself, “What am I really hurt about, or afraid of, here.” And even more importantly, take a moment and consider that your partner is also hurt or frightened about something - and that should matter to you. Before you attack, have a little compassion for each other.
StrongMarriageNow.com is compatible with most faiths, religions and walks of life. The StrongMarriageNow System teaches principles that honor marriage: love, commitment, honesty, trust and connection. Dr. Dana teaches that we all have choices in how we think, act, and behave and she gives you the tools to make more effective choices. She also teaches that we can choose our attitude towards our life and our relationships. Dr. Dana is empowering and thought-provoking. We are not affiliated with any political organization.
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