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Couples Therapy with Dr. Dana
Experiencing relationship problems? Looking for a couples therapist? Have one or both of you fallen out of love?
You can get your relationship back on track and feel in love again even if you're struggling with intimacy, communication, trust issues or constant fighting. Check out the library below with videos and articles from Dr. Dana Fillmore, Clinical Psychologist, Relationship Expert, TV Personality and Author. Start getting help without even having to schedule an appointment.
GET ANSWERS TO YOUR COUPLES THERAPY QUESTIONS
Why Is It So Hard to Get My
Spouse To Consider Couples Therapy?
First let me say that I've heard from so many people that have a difficult time getting their partners to commit to going to marriage or couples counseling. They worry that if he/she won't go, that they are not committed to the relationship and they don’t care about their future.
Fortunately, in most cases, this is far from the truth. The fact is that many people are uncomfortable with going to couples (or pre-marital) counseling. This is due to many reasons.
Some people are more comfortable leaving things as they are rather than talking about and dealing with painful issues.
Many people are uncomfortable discussing their issues with someone they don't know.
Many counselors are women and their approach to relationship therapy is to use a more emotionally focused approach; in other words, to make the men “more like a woman.” They want him to think like a woman and communicate like a woman and that just doesn't work.
Going to a couples counselor can make some people feel like a failure, that they are some how going to “couples psychotherapy” and this can feel threatening.
Some people are concerned about the time it will take and how much couples counseling can cost.
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Check out Dr. Dana’s free couples counseling videos to fix your relationship. Many of our customers have felt that being able to access our couples counseling materials online has been extremely useful in turning their marriage around. If you're interested, Get Dr. Dana’s Couples Counseling Videos to Fix Your Marriage!
Couples Therapy - Does it Work?
Let me tell you why so many couples fail in traditional couples counseling - the sad truth is that not all therapists are created equal – Now, I recognize that might sound strange coming from me, but let me explain what I mean: As I’ve already mentioned, couples should not go to a therapist that isn’t qualified to do couples counseling.
Many people, (and therapists for that matter), don't realize that couples counseling is very different from individual counseling. There is such a thing as couples counseling techniques - so much of it is teaching - teaching couples how to truly communicate, how to resolve conflict, how to learn and understand their partner's point of view, etc.
In fact, it's when couples’ therapists attempt to be mediators in the room - attempt to judge who is right and who is wrong - that they get into trouble and can actually damage the relationship even further, (the truth is 3 out of 4 couples who go to couples counseling actually end up breaking up!)
Additionally, you don't want the couple to become dependent on the therapist. A good therapist doesn't want their clients to be in therapy forever! And after they’ve stopped coming to see the therapist, the therapist is not going to be standing in the kitchen mediating their fight over who should be responsible for feeding the dog! They have to learn to do it themselves and here’s where, in my opinion, the StrongMarriageNow System is the perfect medium to teach them.
The StrongMarriageNow System is a great alternative to face-to-face couples help. In fact, we’re really seeing that in most cases, watching the online videos in the privacy of your own home and completing the exercises is actually better than most face-to-face therapy. Get a free sample of Dr. Dana’s StrongMarriageNow System
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